I am so hurt and angry that I just want to pull his hair and slap him around… I know that he’s impossible to live with as he has picked his family over me… I want to get over him but sometimes it hurts a lot more…. just venting I guess… aaggrrr…I know that I’ll be ok
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OH God do I know! MLC for Hus…decided to..
Choose “feeling good”" and “friends” that didnt have any life expections , over me and my kids lives .
What selfishness exsits… and yes you want to hurt them because you cant believe they would not feel remorse for hurting you and your whole family future for their selfish acts.
Thats the kind of get back you want… I dont know if I will ever see it (his remorse)…but right now I sure as hell dont want him to be “happy”
life will never deal you a deck you can win with.
Your anger is understandable, and you probably want to hurt him as much as you’re hurting right now but that’s exactly what he wants. Everytime you show your anger and act out your emotions towards him, only gives him more power and control over you and your emotions. You just need to show strength, composure, and find something else to take your mind off of things. As soon as he were to realize that things are no longer bothering you, he would most likely become angered and agitated within due to his loss of control over you. They say it is time that heals but that’s wrong, it’s really what you do during that time that makes a difference. So, don’t let him get the best of you. Take care, you’ll be alright.
I think i know how you feel, but it is better in the long run to let him go, however, it hurts like hell and that is why we can’t make reasonable decisions when it comes to love. my man left me 2 weeks ago he called today and now i am at point one again it sucks . yes u will be ok but the time going through is torcher. good luck and keep your chinn up
The hurt will be felt 100% in the beginning. Eventually the hurt will die down to 80%, 60%, etc. until 10% remains. That 10% is memories and experience.
No! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO!
No, I mean I KNOW what you are going thru!!!!
I do! I do! I do!
Sister, YOU are not alone!
Believe me!
Do NOT let his choices dictate how you feel about yourself, and do not let the anger take you over to where you want to make him Pay–it only hurts you…..read some books, vent with your gal-pals, but the best "revenge" is to move on and be happy in yourself and your own life.
"If he undervalues me, what care I , How grand he be?"
Got it?
Get it!
"Now, go have a great life and LIVE….be safe, be happy,
and don’t let that TURKEY get you down!"
Mama said!
It will ease up in time. Stay away from dating until you get a handle on your feelings and what happened in the relationship. In the meantime, get active in your community and join a church, some club, take a class, find out more about yourself. Meditate to help you relax and to get out of your anger. Also, go to a really good salon and get a complete make over. If it costs too much, save money and each time you put money in a jar or whatever picture yourself relaxing under the trained fingers of a massage therapist. Massages supposedly help you deal with all of life’s rough bumps. Also, it will help relax you and keep you from trapping the anger in your body. Make sure you save enough to buy the make up and hair products you will need to keep up your new look. Then, start saving to buy an upgraded wardrobe. Keep setting new goals for yourself that are just for you doing things for you and your future. Then, if you can see a therpist in the meantime. Hang out with your girlfriends but don’t go hunting for a new guy.
What hurts in a situation like that is that you can basically turn off the marriage by divorce, but you can’t turn feelings off the same way. I watched someone very close to me get divorced and then get remarried. Then about 3 years later they got divorced again and had it stopped before it became final. They are not happy together but they don’t think they can live without each other even though they would be better off apart. Time heals all wounds and with time you will see things differently. If it wasn’t meant to be, maybe something better is waiting for you
took me almost 3 years to realize that i made the right choice in getting a divorce. if a man puts u last he doesn’t really love u, why cry over something u have no control over anyway? yes it will hurt for a time, but once u begin to see that theres a life out there for u u will feel better. when we loose someone we love we do hurt, that is normal, but we always seem to get better and we always move on no matter how badly u feel now, time and distance heals everything.
Make yourself busy. Find something to do with your time and aggression. Take an art class or martial arts, or anything, really. Eventually you’ll find that you are just enjoying life again instead of trying to get over the divorce.
Write down your anger – and then put it in an envelope and place it in a drawer……get everything out and when you put it away, you are making a clean split from that emotion. Move on by re-igniting the sunshine in your soul, which moves to your heart of gold and project that outward. You not only will be hekping yourself, but – importantly – someone else.
I know how you feel. Even though I initiated my divorce from a very abusive alcoholic, I had a lot of anger and pain afterward. I was very worried that I would carry over baggage from my crazy marriage into new relationships. Thankfully, I found a great therapist who helped me tremendously. I got my feet back on the ground in no time and my life got 1000% better. I suggest you find a good therapist to help you through this. Most likely, your insurance will pay for it too.
Stupid move to pick you over family. My situation too. But it gets better. Not much help now but it does.
He may never admit it but he’ll realize his mistake later.
Find another guy and have fun!!
Don’t worry you’ll be fine.
Divorce is like death. You need time to let the venting & grieving. Just tell yourself "this will pass" when life gets you down.
Act like your name! Go out with your free spirited self and have a good time!
Stop dwelling on the past and concentrate on making the now and the later into something wonderful!
If you want to pull his hair out that’s fine, but if you want it to hurt then be sure to pull out his short hairs.
You are right, you will be ok. It is ok to be angry, scream and shout if you need too. Time is a wonderful thing. It heals all wounds. I promise. Think of all the great experiences that are waiting for you.
you will be OK and from experience it just takes time
im sorry. i recently got my dissolution. it took me a long time to realize i was better without him. then it took me longer to get a dissolution. good luck!
get a therapist to help you work Thur your feelings
ehh dont worry about it. you”ll get over him. if he pickd u over family then it wasnt meant to be with someone as special as you.
Time will ease your pain. Find another guy.