Comments on: Divorced people: Would you have delayed or stopped your divorce…?

By: Londonite

Londonite — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 13:00:50 +0000

No, I initiated a divorce two months ago and although it hurt like hell and I have been a complete wreck for two solid months, just the last two days I realised that I have made the right decision. Yes I love my soon to be ex husband, yes I am afraid of being alone, yes I have to start my life over completely from getting a job to making new friends BUT, I feel relieved to be unburdened of a marriage that is NEVER going to give me what I need, never going to make me happy and never going to work with a man who put me last. I deserve more and so do my family. Being in a marriage that is wrong or not working is not worth saving. Who the hell listens to Dr Phil about marriage advice anyway? He has cheated and humiliated his wife for years. Seriously people, it is better to go through the pain of a divorce then live in fear of being alone.

By: Kitty

Kitty — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

I didn’t initiate the divorce, so I would have had no power to delay or stop it. It’s hard to say what I would have done had I been the one to initiate the divorce. But when I ask the other person if he’s willing to give it another chance and the answer is "no", I do not beg.

By: gypsy g

gypsy g — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

No, I wouldn’t have
1st marriage we both agreed that we didn’t want the same thing in life.
2nd marriage he was abusive.

By: Anita P

Anita P — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

Oh no! When you decide to get divorced it is for something and you can try to get along with your partner and try and try, but the result will always be the same.
No, people get divorced, because there is a lack of love and comprehension or sometimes, people do love each other, but there is no way for them to live happily together.
I couldn’t stand a life made out of compromises and spoiling half of my life to make a partner happy who thinks in a totally different way than me…
Sorry, I am much too egoist for that kind of life.
I got divorced once, after trying everything and all what happened is, that I lost time, force and money on the attempt to save a rotten marriage.
Now I am married again for almost 10 years and everything is fine, as my husband and me have the same idea about what our life should be.
I simply think, that things, which start badly, will end worse…

By: ambc_angie

ambc_angie — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

No. People divorce because there is something missing and it can’t be found nor fixed. I divorced my husband/boyfriend of 13 yrs and i delayed the divorce for about 3 yrs. I know that our marriage was over when i would get sick at my stomach when he would even touch me. I have recently remarried and this man is truly my soul mate. I think that if you and your spouse have discussed the issue of divorce then one of the two or both of you agree and putting it off only causes more problems to deal with.