U usually cant just learn to deal with it. My parents divorced and I tried to make best of it. Remeber its not ur fault…unless they say so.
blackbeltgal January 18th
All I say is Pray.
PinkFlowerCA January 18th
U just cant do it.
rpo January 18th
you really cant they would just have to work out their issues together.
yourpastlifelover January 18th
Sorry, sweetie, but you can’t.
New Dad January 18th
It’s not your choice, sweetie.
Tighten your belt because this is something you are just going to have to ride on.
MS Williams January 18th
You can’t.
chuckie411 January 18th
You can’t do anything yourself. I hope you aren’t blaming yourself for your parents’ problems….kids don’t cause divorce, parents cause divorce.
miamiheatonfire3 January 18th
lie to them and tell them that if they do you will harm yourself because they ruined your life (PLEASE DON’T ACTUALLY HURT YOURSELF)
April W January 18th
Well, if there’s someone cheating on the other or if there’s physical abuse, then there’s probably not much you can do. If there’s just a "we don’t feel the same way anymore" type of problem, then encourage them to see a marriage counselor and perhaps go on a retreat. Whatever you do, talk it over with both of your parents about your concerns. Good luck!!!
mother love January 18th
do you mean can if so you cant
fuadswickedawesome January 18th
try to show your parents what they have in common together and why they should stay together. Try to show them why they married each other in the first place.
ssbn598 January 18th
Sadly, you cannot stop them from getting a divorce. They are having problems with each other, not with you.
Good luck.
acesfourpal January 18th
YOU can’t, honey. It’s not your fault, either.
bakarie w January 18th
sit down and talk with about how much it would hurt you if they seperated
Nicole January 18th
I’m sorry to say but you can’t, if your parents are not happy you can’t change that. but you will still be able to see them both they just want be living together.
Sharon X January 18th
You’ve got to realize that your parents’ divorce have nothing to do with you. They love you very much but something between them is not quite right. Because this is their relationship issue, it would be hard to stop them from getting divorced. Besides, if getting divorce is going to make them happier, that would be better for you as well… no more fighting, etc.
Sentient6 January 18th
simultaneously tacky January 18th
Caan’t. That’s life sweetheart. You just learn from THEIR mistakes and try to pick a better man for your own marriage. First they separate (and that can go on for months, even years) then they see other people, then they divorce. It happens. Deal with it. You must see that they aren’t happy together anyways.
Annie January 18th
Parents are adults….. they may not always act like it, but they are…… if THEY decide to divorce there is nothing you can say or do….. YOU did nothing wrong….. the problems are all theirs……. NOT YOURS…… just relax and let them work it all out…….. God bless
No January 18th
You can’t. It really isn’t your call. They know more than you what they can put up with and what they can’t. It’s sad, but it’s life. You will have to learn to live with their decision.
babe January 18th
its there diction sorry to say there is nothing you could do i know how you feel my parents are divorced too but you could tell them how you feel
James B January 18th
You didn’t cause them to get a divorce, so it is doubtful that you can stop them. Do you really want them to be miserable together because it’s a inconvenience for you? I am divorced, and I get along better with my ex now than I ever did when we were together.
lobovicky2003 January 18th
Very noble question. i hope you are not asking for yourself. First you would have to know what the dispute is about. And there really isn’t anything one can do to make two people do anything. At least to do anything that will last or Even yet be productive. Nature will take its course, whether we stand in its way or step out of it. that’s not to say that our hands our tied. Depending on what age the person is trying to keep their parent’s together, will define what kind of approach to take. I would surmise that if a child is older, they would probably in some cases advocate that a separation is the best answer.
Steve H January 18th
As a parent myself (and divorced) I can only tell you not to even try to stop it. Keep faith with yourself, try to keep faith with both your mum and dad (believe me, it is going to be hard, because you are going to witness some pretty strange behaviour) and always remember, they may not love each other, but they will always love you. It is not your fault, that is the one thing you must never forget
ladynamedjane January 18th
You have to let them handle their problem. It is nothing to do with you other than the fact you love them both and they still love you. It will work out fine. They will still be in your life just in a different way. sometimes parents just change and things change, it is very hard and you should let them know you are very upset about it. Tell them you want to talk about it with them.
Chrishica January 18th
Pretend the house is haunted…..oh, wait wasn’t that the Brady Bunch when they didn’t want to move…..You can’t stop your parents from getting a divorce…you can "prolong the inevitable" but you won’t really understand until you get there…let your parents be happy, what ever that means to them. You’d like them to do that for you…..wouldn’t you?
yanksFan223 January 18th
aww i’m sorry, that’s a really hard thing to have to deal with, but i don’t think anyone can stop that. it’s something that the parents have to work out amongst themselves. I think a good way to think of it is that they’re doing what’s best for their relationship. Not all relationships work out, and sometimes it’s good to end one that isn’t working. I hope everything works out for you!
Dee January 18th
You can’t. Sorry but that’s the way it is. Divorce is harder on kids than parents. Talk with friends that have been through the same thing. I’m sorry for what you’re going through. I know it’s not easy but you’ll heal. It just takes time.
chantel_r_s January 18th
Unfortunately your parents are adults and there is no way to stop them from making the decision. Of course you can always make your case to them and be sure to explain your reasons for wanting them to stay together. I would start by suggesting counseling (if they haven’t been through it already). Next, get the facts on how divorce affects kids and try that route. If that doesn’t work, suggest a trial seperation before they file any paperwork.
Good luck.
RusK January 18th
CRY!! or drug them to sleep, drag them into a small enclosed space, lock em in, and tell them they’re not coming out until they realize why they married each other in the first place. If that don’t work, sorry, try crying some more, just make sure it’s in front of them both and they know why.
Barry auh2o January 18th
You will run the risk of getting slapped, but you might ask them, "" why don’;t you try to make this work out rather than just being a bunch of quitters."
When your mother says "it’s your father’s fault",and you mother says "it your father’s fault,"say"Bull;shit! neither of you has the guts to say you’re wrong."
These are desperate measures but there are desperate times.
Good luck.,
TokyoGirl January 18th
YOU can’t. This divorce is not about you, it is about them. I don’t mean that to sound harsh, but it’s true.
Your parents’ divorce isn’t just a rash action. It’s something that the two of them put a lot of time & thought into. They decided that it would be the best thing for them to do for themselves (as well as you) mentally, emotionally, & physically. Divorce doesn’t mean that they don’t still love each other, but that they can’t live together anymore. There are a lot of things that go into a marraige & while love is important, it is only one of hundreds of things that is necessary to make a marraige work. None of this is your fault.
I remember that when my parents split I was heartbroken. My sisters & I all wanted my parents to get back together, but they didn’t. We were so angry, more so than we had ever been before. It took us a while to realize that it was better for everyone involved. We didn’t have to hear fighting or deal with one parent not talking to the other parent. My dad ended up remarrying to a very nice woman that I will admit is much better for him than my mother was. It’s hard to admit that, but it is true.
Just take it one day at a time. It gets easier, little by little. I promise.
Ms. Hollister♥ January 18th
sweety, my parents never got into a divorce, they’re still happily together. All I say is be mad at your mom and say " momma, dont get a divorce and if you do Im living with(yourbestfriendsname) house." if she says no you wont, then say yes i will and go to your bffs house.
Happy Camper January 18th
It’s NOT your fault.
Try hugging both at the same time.
If that doen’t work, it’s still not your fault.
Sophiesmom January 18th
You cant…
Colleen O January 18th
You can’t. It is THEIR marriage not your’s.
MellyMel January 18th
Sweetheart, no matter how much you may want your parents to stay together, you can’t MAKE them stay married. If getting divorced is what it takes to make them happy, then that’s what has to happen.
My parents divorced when I was 8. At first, I was really upset by it. But as the years went by, I noticed that they were a lot happier. I realized that I’d rather them be apart and happy than together and miserable. So…
No matter how hard it hurts you, just remember that both of your parents love you SO much. They just want what’s best for you. And maybe right now, them staying together isn’t what’s best for you. Just remember to pray, and talk to other family members and friends if you need to.
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richard m January 18th
my parents split when i was 4
Bob jr January 18th
U usually cant just learn to deal with it. My parents divorced and I tried to make best of it. Remeber its not ur fault…unless they say so.
blackbeltgal January 18th
All I say is Pray.
PinkFlowerCA January 18th
U just cant do it.
rpo January 18th
you really cant they would just have to work out their issues together.
yourpastlifelover January 18th
Sorry, sweetie, but you can’t.
New Dad January 18th
It’s not your choice, sweetie.
Tighten your belt because this is something you are just going to have to ride on.
MS Williams January 18th
You can’t.
chuckie411 January 18th
You can’t do anything yourself. I hope you aren’t blaming yourself for your parents’ problems….kids don’t cause divorce, parents cause divorce.
miamiheatonfire3 January 18th
lie to them and tell them that if they do you will harm yourself because they ruined your life (PLEASE DON’T ACTUALLY HURT YOURSELF)
April W January 18th
Well, if there’s someone cheating on the other or if there’s physical abuse, then there’s probably not much you can do. If there’s just a "we don’t feel the same way anymore" type of problem, then encourage them to see a marriage counselor and perhaps go on a retreat. Whatever you do, talk it over with both of your parents about your concerns. Good luck!!!
mother love January 18th
do you mean can if so you cant
fuadswickedawesome January 18th
try to show your parents what they have in common together and why they should stay together. Try to show them why they married each other in the first place.
ssbn598 January 18th
Sadly, you cannot stop them from getting a divorce. They are having problems with each other, not with you.
Good luck.
acesfourpal January 18th
YOU can’t, honey. It’s not your fault, either.
bakarie w January 18th
sit down and talk with about how much it would hurt you if they seperated
Nicole January 18th
I’m sorry to say but you can’t, if your parents are not happy you can’t change that. but you will still be able to see them both they just want be living together.
Sharon X January 18th
You’ve got to realize that your parents’ divorce have nothing to do with you. They love you very much but something between them is not quite right. Because this is their relationship issue, it would be hard to stop them from getting divorced. Besides, if getting divorce is going to make them happier, that would be better for you as well… no more fighting, etc.
Sentient6 January 18th
simultaneously tacky January 18th
Caan’t. That’s life sweetheart. You just learn from THEIR mistakes and try to pick a better man for your own marriage. First they separate (and that can go on for months, even years) then they see other people, then they divorce. It happens. Deal with it. You must see that they aren’t happy together anyways.
Annie January 18th
Parents are adults….. they may not always act like it, but they are…… if THEY decide to divorce there is nothing you can say or do….. YOU did nothing wrong….. the problems are all theirs……. NOT YOURS…… just relax and let them work it all out…….. God bless
No January 18th
You can’t. It really isn’t your call. They know more than you what they can put up with and what they can’t. It’s sad, but it’s life. You will have to learn to live with their decision.
babe January 18th
its there diction sorry to say there is nothing you could do i know how you feel my parents are divorced too but you could tell them how you feel
James B January 18th
You didn’t cause them to get a divorce, so it is doubtful that you can stop them. Do you really want them to be miserable together because it’s a inconvenience for you? I am divorced, and I get along better with my ex now than I ever did when we were together.
lobovicky2003 January 18th
Very noble question. i hope you are not asking for yourself. First you would have to know what the dispute is about. And there really isn’t anything one can do to make two people do anything. At least to do anything that will last or Even yet be productive. Nature will take its course, whether we stand in its way or step out of it. that’s not to say that our hands our tied. Depending on what age the person is trying to keep their parent’s together, will define what kind of approach to take. I would surmise that if a child is older, they would probably in some cases advocate that a separation is the best answer.
Steve H January 18th
As a parent myself (and divorced) I can only tell you not to even try to stop it. Keep faith with yourself, try to keep faith with both your mum and dad (believe me, it is going to be hard, because you are going to witness some pretty strange behaviour) and always remember, they may not love each other, but they will always love you. It is not your fault, that is the one thing you must never forget
ladynamedjane January 18th
You have to let them handle their problem. It is nothing to do with you other than the fact you love them both and they still love you. It will work out fine. They will still be in your life just in a different way. sometimes parents just change and things change, it is very hard and you should let them know you are very upset about it. Tell them you want to talk about it with them.
Chrishica January 18th
Pretend the house is haunted…..oh, wait wasn’t that the Brady Bunch when they didn’t want to move…..You can’t stop your parents from getting a divorce…you can "prolong the inevitable" but you won’t really understand until you get there…let your parents be happy, what ever that means to them. You’d like them to do that for you…..wouldn’t you?
yanksFan223 January 18th
aww i’m sorry, that’s a really hard thing to have to deal with, but i don’t think anyone can stop that. it’s something that the parents have to work out amongst themselves. I think a good way to think of it is that they’re doing what’s best for their relationship. Not all relationships work out, and sometimes it’s good to end one that isn’t working. I hope everything works out for you!
Dee January 18th
You can’t. Sorry but that’s the way it is. Divorce is harder on kids than parents. Talk with friends that have been through the same thing. I’m sorry for what you’re going through. I know it’s not easy but you’ll heal. It just takes time.
chantel_r_s January 18th
Unfortunately your parents are adults and there is no way to stop them from making the decision. Of course you can always make your case to them and be sure to explain your reasons for wanting them to stay together. I would start by suggesting counseling (if they haven’t been through it already). Next, get the facts on how divorce affects kids and try that route. If that doesn’t work, suggest a trial seperation before they file any paperwork.
Good luck.
RusK January 18th
CRY!! or drug them to sleep, drag them into a small enclosed space, lock em in, and tell them they’re not coming out until they realize why they married each other in the first place. If that don’t work, sorry, try crying some more, just make sure it’s in front of them both and they know why.
Barry auh2o January 18th
You will run the risk of getting slapped, but you might ask them, "" why don’;t you try to make this work out rather than just being a bunch of quitters."
When your mother says "it’s your father’s fault",and you mother says "it your father’s fault,"say"Bull;shit! neither of you has the guts to say you’re wrong."
These are desperate measures but there are desperate times.
Good luck.,
TokyoGirl January 18th
YOU can’t. This divorce is not about you, it is about them. I don’t mean that to sound harsh, but it’s true.
Your parents’ divorce isn’t just a rash action. It’s something that the two of them put a lot of time & thought into. They decided that it would be the best thing for them to do for themselves (as well as you) mentally, emotionally, & physically. Divorce doesn’t mean that they don’t still love each other, but that they can’t live together anymore. There are a lot of things that go into a marraige & while love is important, it is only one of hundreds of things that is necessary to make a marraige work. None of this is your fault.
I remember that when my parents split I was heartbroken. My sisters & I all wanted my parents to get back together, but they didn’t. We were so angry, more so than we had ever been before. It took us a while to realize that it was better for everyone involved. We didn’t have to hear fighting or deal with one parent not talking to the other parent. My dad ended up remarrying to a very nice woman that I will admit is much better for him than my mother was. It’s hard to admit that, but it is true.
Just take it one day at a time. It gets easier, little by little. I promise.
Ms. Hollister♥ January 18th
sweety, my parents never got into a divorce, they’re still happily together. All I say is be mad at your mom and say " momma, dont get a divorce and if you do Im living with(yourbestfriendsname) house." if she says no you wont, then say yes i will and go to your bffs house.
Happy Camper January 18th
It’s NOT your fault.
Try hugging both at the same time.
If that doen’t work, it’s still not your fault.
Sophiesmom January 18th
You cant…
Colleen O January 18th
You can’t. It is THEIR marriage not your’s.
MellyMel January 18th
Sweetheart, no matter how much you may want your parents to stay together, you can’t MAKE them stay married. If getting divorced is what it takes to make them happy, then that’s what has to happen.
My parents divorced when I was 8. At first, I was really upset by it. But as the years went by, I noticed that they were a lot happier. I realized that I’d rather them be apart and happy than together and miserable. So…
No matter how hard it hurts you, just remember that both of your parents love you SO much. They just want what’s best for you. And maybe right now, them staying together isn’t what’s best for you. Just remember to pray, and talk to other family members and friends if you need to.
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