Comments on: how do you know when it is time for a divorce or know when you stop loving someone?

By: shortstuff

shortstuff — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

It’s time for a divorce when there are problems in the marriage & counseling hasn’t helped both parties.

By: timssterling

timssterling — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

I would say when you are no longer happy and you feel that you are probably never going to be happy/content with this person. After that there is no reason to stay.

By: Sweet_One

Sweet_One — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

When you don’t love them is when you don’t care about this person or what becomes of them. You don’t care if their in your life, you don’t care about them period, or if you feel nothing but hatred or annoyance. Its time for a divorce when you feel the flame is burnt out and you try to light it but it just doesn’t light up anymore as it used to.

By: sasquatch5170

sasquatch5170 — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

When I first got married the thought of my wife kissing an old boyfriend before we were married made me jealous.

I think I realized it was over when recently I imagined her sleeping with a neighbor and it only made me wonder if she would change the sheets when they were done.

By: Queen Bee

Queen Bee — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

I knew it was time for a divorce when I couldn’t stand to see my husband at home when I got there. I wouldn’t go to bed until after he had been asleep for a while so I wouldn’t have to have sex with him….. however he did abuse me for 10 years prior to my filing for divorce…..and he is still an alcoholic.

By: living_for_christ

living_for_christ — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

when you’ve put EVERYTHING into making
the relationship work.when u can look
back and say i did everything in my power
(praying, seeking help) to make it work
& it just won’t.

By: karolyne

karolyne — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

if the spouse has an affair that’s the only time I would get a lawyer and Judge Judy just so she can preside the case.

By: shootingstars957

shootingstars957 — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

If you have fallen out of love or don’t feel complete with this person you answered your own question…………When you look them in the eye what do you see?? is it that same feeling you had when you fell in love with this person. Love grows over time it does not grow weaker. So if you are questioning it now, then you should tell yourself do I want to get counseling is it worth it?? If not, then no move on

By: FishBoNe

FishBoNe — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

u can’t stand anymore this relationship

By: Liz

Liz — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

You feel it, when you feel like you’re living with a roommate instead of a husband/wife that’s when you know its time to leave. I’ll put it like this, you’re supposed to have peace in your adult life, and if you can’t have peace in your own home, something is wrong. Listen to your heart, it’ll lead you in the right direction.

By: Tony G

Tony G — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

When you have to question your relationship is a good indication that your well on your way to deciding that for yourself. You can seek answers from anyone who will listen or take the advice of countless so called ‘experts’ but the final decision has to be yours alone.

Sometimes when we ask the question of divorce all we are doing is looking for the excuse. The easy way out is to put the blame on someone else. The fact is, we all make our own way. If on the other hand you are asking the question, ‘how can we fix this?’ then it’s probably worth a little more than you give credit to. "Seek and you shall find". "Knock and the door shall be opened".
Good luck and Peace to you!

By: nickie_perreira

nickie_perreira — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

Never is the best time. There are some of us who just hang on and hope that things will get better, but it never goes back to the way things were before. I am a gluten for punishment, my husband left me 2 1/2 years ago and I am still hanging on, but realistically we will never get back together, but try and tell my heart that. I could never trust him again. Good Luck. Live Life to the Fullest and Enjoy Every Minute of It…

By: Smarty Pants™

Smarty Pants™ — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

I dont think even a professional could answer this question. Only you can. Only you can say that it has got to the point where Im just not enjoying my life any longer and this relationship is just not headed in the direction that I am. The fact that you’re even asking this question means something serious is taking place here. (Unless its just random) Many factors are involved. Are their children? Do you have the resources to make it on your own? Many women have fear to leave their husbands due to nowhere to go or no money. They offer support groups for this problem and you may need to seek one. The bottom line is…Life is too short not to live it in happiness.