How to save my marriage? ?

I need ideas on how to save my marriage, please hhelp, i have tried everything

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  1. Jessy says:

    It takes TWO people to make a marriage work. So if you are the only one trying and working at it, then it will NOT work…
    Both of you have to be on the same page and want it.

    Start by communicating with him/her and get into counseling.

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how to save my marriage?

My husband & I have been married for 10 years and we have two children together. The other day a woman at the gym (she was working out with him) told him that she has feelings for him. I shared my feelings with him about 6 months ago about them working out together. He told me that they were just friends. I did no trust her at all.. The other day she told him that she has feelings for him. He never told me till 2 days later that he has feelings for her as well. He has been telling me that he still loves me but he can not get her out of his head. She has been texting him ALOT! Now he is unsure if he wants to be with his family or this girl from the gym. I am suffering so much inside! We have had some discussions about this but he has told me that he is torn on what to do. Today he also said that he would like to seek help with a counselor. That is a step into the right direction, but he sleeps on the couch, doesn’t want me to ask him anything about the situation. He has also mentioned that he would like to be in a neutral place. So he might move in with a friend who is married for a little while. How can he be neutral when they are still communicating to one another on a daily basis? I feel like she is filling his head with what she wants and I am losing the man that I love with all my heart & soul. I will do whatever it takes to save my marriage. My children and my husband mean the world to me. I need some guidance..!
My husband as well as the "other" woman have said that nothing sexual has been done… I am more than willing to work on our marriage. He also wants to go to counseling alone. I am leaving him alone and letting him make his decision. At the same time, I feel so alone and miss everything about him. I feel like he is cheating on me, by doing what he is doing and still texting her all the time. Not sure if what I am doing is the right thing… There is some much love that I have for him and this whole ordeal is just killing me!
He says that he needs to go to the counselor alone. I don’t want to force going with him… but at the same time I would love to hear what he has to say. I have told him about the children, our family, and us… He has spoken to another one of our married friends who has gone through a similar situation.. He said that talking with them make him think about things.. I did meet with the other woman face to face and spoke with her. Her marriage is not working out for her and she wants to be with my husband. She has told him that she is filing for divorce and that she will be waiting for him. She told me that they were connected and that she knows that they should be together… My husband is still undecided about who he wants to be with… She is not showing my husband, myself or our family any respect by still talking to him. He is just as guilty in this too…
I would have to agree…

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  1. Timothy Fountain says:

    You stated what the problem is with your marriage, now you need to figure out how to save your marriage. The good news is that you don’t need to do this on your own. The internet is filled with great programs and tips on how to save your marriage.

    You do not need to spend money going to a counselor to help save your marriage. You can get the right tools online that will help you. The problem most people have when it comes to saving their marriage is that they want a quick fix. There is no quick fix and if you want to make your marriage work it will take time and patience. I am not going to tell you what to do exactly because I am no experts, but what I will tell you is that the links I have listed below have helped thousands of people get their marriage back on track. I also include one link that will surprise you.

    I wish you the best of luck with your marriage.

  2. pamela holler says:

    It’s right that you give him space that he need. But you also need to think what are other underlying problems that could be there. Sometimes it could be that they are bored with the relationship as it often happens. Your hubby seems to be thinking that he’s the one with the choices. Sometimes this calls for psychological tricks to make it work.

  3. Joe N says:

    If you really want to save your marriage you and your husband need to get some help. Right now it will be hard to convince him that what he is doing is wrong. He may think it is ok to string this other woman alone and make her think she has a chance to be with him. He is crazy if he thinks he can have a meaningful relationship with this woman because it would have started off on the wrong foot. They would never be able to trust each other.

    What you need to do is fight for your man if you really love and care about him. Don’t let someone else just come between you and him. You need to do what it takes to make sure he only has eyes for you. Too many times people get married and they let themselves go and the marriage becomes boring and predictable. You need to bring back the love in your marriage and you need to do it fast.

    I have place a couple of links below that have some good information on ways to save your marriage and also ways to turn your boring love life around.

  4. olman357 says:

    The long and the short of it is , he is only thinking of him self. He should be thinking of his wife and children and his family. He is only thinking of his own pleasure. How could he want to be with a woman who would come between a married couple and their children ? Will this woman ever be happy ?….No ! she will just keep hurting others. She is a cheater and always will be. Your husband is being dumb and blind.
    I’m sorry for the pain you are feeling.

    Jp

  5. pfhorest42 says:

    Be in a neutral place means I am not cheating in front of you. Things have gone very far indeed. Now the solution is to find out what he is missing in the marriage and then try and fill it. You should be able to discover this directly from him or with a councilor. It does little good for him to go by himself.

    Right now don’t focus on the problem… focus on the solution. It may take a lot of patience and forgiveness. But go on a mission to find out what he needs and why he thinks this other woman has it. Because most likely she does not, its just a fleeting thing.

    Remind him of his family and the destruction that breaking up will cause, especially to the children. Tell him you are willing to work for a solution to help him feel like he can get what he is looking for.

    he needs to stop texting her and start working with you on the solution.

  6. Wifey says:

    If I was you I would go to marriage counseling and see what kind of help you can get and appointment asap. After I did that I would go confront her on what she is doing and ask her to leave your husband alone and back off because the worst place in the world she can put herself is between a mother her children and her husband! I would tell her this is her warning if I see or hear that she is still trying to contact him that she will be seeing me again but not in a polite nice manner.

  7. Ashley says:

    Hes been spending time with her…More than likely hes been sleeping with her. If hes still trying to figure it out, and came clean to you, you have one of two choices. You can either let go now and save yourself grief of living trapped in a broken marriage or you can wait it out and give him his space and time to think. The other woman isnt evil, so dont think of her as an enemy, you dont know her situation or why shes interesting to him. It takes two to cheat, but alot of the time the other women fall victim to lies of the married man. If your husband feels like she can provide him something that you havent been for the last ten yrs. Then maybe its for the best, because hes gonna keep looking for something to fill whatever void it is, and it will be a never ending downward spiral full of cheating, lies, and mistrust. You seem like a good family orientated woman. If he wants to go to a counselor, go with him, but give yourself a time limit. Ask yourself, "How long am I willing to hurt over him?" "How long am I willing to live frozen in time while he figures himself out?" Set that time limit, and dont change your mind when you reach the end.

    EDIT* Wifey…she cannot make that kind of decision for her husband, he told her straight that he wants to figure it out. If hes still talking to this woman everyday its because he likes her, hes said he has feeling for her. It has to be up to him to come back to his wife, he cant feel forced…because their relationship wont be strong after that. They have to work together and work hard at it. But it has got to be up to him to leave the other woman alone.

  8. Bob Cratchet says:

    If it was me, I would get lezzed up in your bedroom and let him walk in on you whilst your eating muff.

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How to save my marriage.?

I am 22 and have been married since April, and things have seemed to be good until monday. On monday I went to work and when I got off my husband picked me up and I noticed he looked like somethin was botherin him. I asked him and he didn’t really seem to want to talk but he finally said he was unhappy and couldn’t be happy with me and has never been in love with me and things like that which noithing had happened between us so I didn’t understand. He said he married me to make me happy and he was tired of just makin me happy which from the way he talks to ppl about me it didn’t make since because he would tell them he loved me so much. I have a daughter which he loves, but now says he doesnt want a wife or children. Now he will not come home and wont talk to anyone including me and just gets mad at me because I want to save our marriage. I know its christmas time and that makes him stressed and he hasn’t had a job, which I just got him one, but I don’t know what to do about us. I want to save our marriage. To me divorce is not the answer. I am tryin my hardest not to tlk to him and let him cool off, but its so hard to go from seeing him every day and sleeping by him every night to not even talking. Any ideas on what to do to save this? Please no negative things I am very upset already. Also any ideas on what’s going on if you or someone u know has done something like this?

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  1. Blunt says:

    Just a few month ago you said that you did not trust him and that you couldn’t stand him (*looks at your questions). You also said that you were sick of his 17 year old girlfriend. You were almost one year apart, and you said yourself that "he doesn’t want to be a father to the baby".

    He is telling you the truth: he marry you because of the baby and your constant drama. He doesn’t love you and he is not ready to be a husband. You are the one pushing your way through this and you cannot have a family with an unwilling partner, someone that doesn;t love you, doesn;t respect you and doesn’t want to be with you.

    There is nothing to "save" as the relationship was hopeless from the beginning: the constant arguing, the separations, the sudden pregnancy, the trust issues and then a quick courthouse wedding to keep your mouth shut. You made all this mess yourself, don;t make him do more things to "make you happy", you make yourself happy, you have a child to raise and this environment is sad and toxic for a child to grow in.

    He is going to get a divorce whether you want to or not, he doesn’t need your consent to get it. I suggest you start seeing the situation for what it is rather than for what you want it to be.

    You are both too young for marriage and parenthood anyway.

    Good luck

  2. Dutch Soul says:

    Make yourself so attractive that he cant resist you. Go to the gym, eat well, meditate, and absorb simplicity, love, sincerity and naivety, the four attributes of a woman.

  3. La Vie Boheme says:

    Nobody here can tell you what is going on. We don’t even know the man. I can tell you that perhaps he feels as though he made a mistake getting married. If that’s the case, don’t hold onto a guy that doesn’t want the same things you do.

  4. RG says:

    All depends on why he feels like this. Any cheating involved? Any specific reasons you’ve been fighting? He’s obviously not happy about something. You need to find out what it is and address those issues. If he was really serious, why wouldn’t he just leave? Chances are he wants to stay with u, but wants some serious changes if he hasn’t left the house yet. Maybe he’s just making one last attempt to save the relationship, but wants to see if you’re capable of changing. Or he could just be a loser. You know him better than any of us, u need to make that call.

  5. Julyguy76 says:

    Sounds like he rushed into it and really didnt let the thought of marriage sink in. Now he has stewed on it for the past couple of years and he is done… Chicken crap thing to do to you and your kid.

    Move on and dont look back. Anyone that flakey isnt a real spouse anyway. Its going to be hard and HURT but walk away. Youll be much better off down the road.

  6. DD says:

    Sounds like he has a little sumtin on the side you need to move on you deserve BETTER

  7. ♫ Mad Luv ♫ aka ~Pril~ says:

    His fault for mis leading you. and doing things in his life that he assumed to make you happy.
    the only thing i can say is wait it out. maybe he is just depresssed. conitue to talk about it.
    i have seen many people marry for the wrong reasons and sadly most of them end up in the big D.
    and as much as it sucks you all got married for the wrong reasons.

  8. LEYKIS 101 says:

    You can’t!!! You got married too young and your husband is sick of being tied down!!! He never took time to have fun and now he is ready to make up for lost time!!!

  9. Allison, Swinger Lady says:

    First, as awful as it was for you to hear that, at least he’s talking. Don’t go crazy on him or he’ll stop.

    Second, it sounds like he feels like he is a failure to you over this job situation and that rather than being a failure to you, it’s easier to just leave.

    If this were me, I’d do the following:

    1. Ask him to see a therapist, who might refer him to a Dr to check him out for depression.

    2. Tell him you love him, and that you’d like to sit on this for a few months. If then he still thinks you should divorce, let him go.

    If that really happens, I’m very sorry, but be glad it happened at 22 rather than 42 like it does for a lot of people.

  10. Vitto says:

    Once someone’s mind is made up, there is no way to convince him to change it. I suggest you accept reality, and find the loving man that you deserve…

  11. AnswerDude says:

    Leave him alone! If he comes back and is willing to go to marriage counseling with you then GREAT.

    Don’t chase him and be a desperate doormat! IF he comes back it needs to be on YOUR terms!

  12. Steve-O in AZ says:

    He obviously was not ready for marriage. There is no easy time for a split. But what an SOB. My wife left right around the holidays too. Sucks. Sorry hon. Hang in there.

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How to save my marriage?

We are divorcing but it’s not finalized. I have received a heart breaking letter from my wife and so am considering to use this separation period as a trial to reconnect. I don’t know if it’s possible. I am confused about what I feels for her but I know that she is still loving me very much. Does anger confuse my feeling? If I don’t have any love left how do I start to reconnect? What do we need to make it work besides our forgiveness to each other. We also have a beautiful 13 year old daughter, can she help us out to reconnect, if so, how? Please help!!!
My wife is not leaving me, the divorce is my decision. I am not saying that nothing left in me, it might be the anger that confused my feeling.

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16 Responses to How to save my marriage?

  1. Maria says:

    Everyone wants to have a happy marriage. But after some time different kinds of problems appear in our life. It is true that many people give up on a marriage too soon, and too many marriages end up being weighted down by unresolved difficulties.

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  2. LD says:

    Many people want to know why marriages fail, and while there are many answers, experts are now focusing on a few risk factors and behaviors that can create barriers in a marriage.

    To read my article, Why Marriages Fail, see the link below.

  3. adoreme says:

    Well I say to go through all of the steps before you consider the divorce. Divorce is really an ugly situation and even though you divorce you still have 18(+) years with her, your wife. Then when your daughter gets married, has a baby etc. she really never leaves your life. Whatever you do treat her wife now with kindness you need to be a role model for you daughter and leave her out at all cost. She did not ask for this to happen.

  4. STFU_0123 says:

    Please dont put the child at the pinnacle of your issues with your wife. Also dont use her as a levee to put one another on a guilt trip as to why you two should remain together.

    What you both need to do is use this time apart wisely sorting out your true feelings. In that period, ask yourself some questions and imagine life without your wife, would things really be better? Now imagine yourself staying with your wife, do you see situations improving, do you see hope for this marriage?
    If you do, my hope is that both of you will alow this break to clear both of your heads and then return to eachother to talk perhaps a few times a week would be ideal. Maybe you both will come to the wise conclusion that counseling will be in both your best interests. If you each come to that agreement, I think that you’ll both find in therapy the underlying causes to the issues in the marriage and better yet, healthy ways to correct those issues. Depending on the severity of those issues, somethings may be able to be reversed and in turn work out better then before. There could be some facts both of you are choosing to ignore or maybe that your just not dealing with adequately.

    If your angry, then by all means take as much time as needed till that feeling subsides. Once you have a better mentality, you’ll be much more apt to dealing with things better and therefore having better outcomes. Regardless, if your not sure of what to do, then your best bet is to not finalize anything just yet until you at least can both say you’ve tried.

  5. Nehru says:

    You arte thinking in the right direction for saving your marriage. Your daughter will surely be a good conduit for reconciliationbetween you two.

  6. Amber says:

    First of all please keep your daughter out of the equation here. She is a totally separate issue, and should not be the reason for getting back together. Regardless of how much your wife loves you, that also can not be a reason to get back with her. Yes anger could be covering up how you truly feel, so that is the first step. You need to resolve that anger before knowing what your next move should be. Once you have accepted whatever it was that happened, and you move forward, you will see if you do love this woman and want to make it work or not. This might take time, so there is no need to finalize the divorce until you take the time to work through this.

    I wouldn’t even attempt to try to make a connection with her until you clear your thoughts, and are able to start with a clean slate. If you find that you do love her, and you want your marriage, then counseling is a must. I wouldn’t move back in right away, because remember nothing has changed yet. I would take it slow, start the counseling and take it from there.

  7. Genevieve says:

    Well you DO have love if you are having a change of heart.
    Forgiveness, communication, counselling, honestly, transparency, love, respect–all things you need.
    If you have any inkling of wanting to save your marriage – try it. What’s the worse that could happen besides losing your marriage and wife?

  8. Vizzini says:

    For the sake of your daughter please look at this link and consider some of the conference dates and times. They have restored countless marriages. Have your wife commit to attending one with you and DON’T DO ANYTHING UNTIL AFTER YOU GO. What harm would there be in delaying a divorce? Please go. they are not intimidating or uncomfortable at all….in any way….no pressure. Their desire is to see your marriage restored.

    http://www.familylife.com/site/c.dnJHKLNnFoG/b.5846045/k.8C0A/Weekend_to_Remember__Marriage_Getaway.htm

    Until then you could each watch the movie "Fireproof" with Kirk Cameron. It is low budget and won’t win any Academy Award, but watch the whole thing and you will think it’s the greatest movie. It will help you, your wife, and your marriage.

  9. Shelly says:

    Is this something you want to do? If the answer is a solid NO, then you should finalize the divorce. But, if you’re having doubts and thinking your divorce is a big mistake, then I think you owe it to your family (wife & daughter) to try and work things out.

    Think back to when you first met your wife. What made you connect? What are you similarities? What are your best memories? Start from scratch and recreate what it was that made you fall for each other originally. If both of you want to put effort back into the relationship, then chances are you both still love each other and can make it work.

  10. maximiliano says:

    Why are you so mad at her? Start by getting rid of that anger if you can. Once you are not mad at her, find out if you still love her. If you don’t, move on. Even if she still loves you, the relationship will not work if you are out of love. If you are positive you still love her, then do something about it. FORGIVE.

  11. no1advice says:

    I don’t put a lot of faith in "separating". This only opens the door for the wolf to enter and problems start up. You say you know that she is still loving you very much if so why is she the one leaving you?? I am confused with that. You also said you don’t have any love left so how can you reconnect. Well…if love is gone and she is the one leaving you must try to split apart in an amicable way for the sake of the daughter. She is old enough to say who she wants to live with. Maybe you can agree on a 50/50 so child support doesn’t have to tear up the whole situation. Work together as much as you can in getting the divorce with the least amount of pain for all concerned.

    I do wish you the best in this.

  12. Curious says:

    Your daughter deserves love from you and your wife and not pressure to help you guys reconnect so I’d leave her out of it.

    What made you guys separate in the first place? Lack of passion? Lost interest? Infidelity? Stress? Money? Health? There could be lots of strategies but unless we know it’s hard to offer advice. Talk to a professional. You seem like a good guy who cares about his wife and family so give it your best shot they deserve it.

  13. annjee says:

    pray to god

  14. Hello Kitty says:

    Have you tried therapy? A lot of people are against it, but it really works. I bet you have tried to talk things out with your wife many times, and there was yelling and insulting and someone might’ve even just gotten up and left. But when you’re in a therapist’s office, you might feel uncomfortable screaming or arguing in front of someone else who you barely know. Therefore, your anger aside, you have someone encouraging you to be open and speak your mind and work things out…and that’s exactly what happens.

    About your 13 year old daughter, try your hardest not to bring her into this, because if you and your wife do not get back together, your daughter may feel she has failed you and it is her fault that you two are no longer together. Just let her know you both love her so much, but don’t use her to get closer to your wife. You and her need to discuss things. Write letters if you need to, that way no one will lash out irrationally, and you can really take the time to get your feelings straight before speaking without thinking.

    I wish you all the luck. If it was meant to be, it will be <3

  15. Jessica says:

    Start by giving each other space and time and going out on dates like you did when you first started out. Make those dates fun and drama free.
    Communicate. Don’t belittle or hurt, but let your feelings be known.
    Get into counseling.
    Your 13 yr old daughter should not be brought into the middle of it, but yes, she can help reconnect by doing fun family things together, however keep her out of the drama that you and your wife are going thru–she shouldn’t ever feel that it’s her responsibility to make your marriage work.

    Good Luck

  16. been there says:

    I’m really feeling bad for you. It’s such a hard time. You don’t really mention what the problem is so my advice is to give it another try. Leave your daughter out of it.

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How to save my marriage?

My wife and i have been together 10yrs married 4. She has changed in the last year and a half. She will not communicate what she wants. I have tried everything from romance to spice up the sex life. vacations, etc. nothing is working, we watched fireproof no luck. any advice? she does say she loves me and we can work it out but i am at a loss. Thanks in advance to all of you.

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18 Responses to How to save my marriage?

  1. theroicoach says:

    Love your wife through this. Find other ways to be intimate with her. Talking is always a great way to start. If you sense that she’s just not herself, counseling is a great option. As long as she’s willing, things will change. It takes both of you to get past this. No matter what, love her, don’t judge her for what’s going on.

  2. adomoha says:

    Hey Becool, am sorry about what you are going through. Your wife seems distant maybe because she lost touch. Best thing to do, ignore her. Be the man….don’t stoop low and do everything for her. I think then, she’ll be able to realise that you are the man in the house.
    Personally, i think that when you give a woman too much attention, she tends to manipulate you….
    All the best brother.

  3. tissonhead says:

    Sit her down and tell her how you feel. She doesn’t really understand your feelings as well as she says she does.

    Tell her that you’ve tried everything, but what does she want? Tell her you want this marriage to work, but does she? Ask her if you should leave her, or try and make this work?

    It seems a whole lot simpler to leave her with no kids. If you do have children, unfortunately they would grow old unhappy if you stayed together anyway.

  4. muchi says:

    there is a problem she doesn’t want to tell you but …try to tell her everything you think,you feel.

  5. CRAZY DAISY says:

    She sounds depressed. Not that your doing something wrong as such . maybe you should refer her to a doctor who can put her on some medication to help deal with it. a counsillor could also help her. Talk to her about these possible solutions and if she insists it’s not depression then you could both go to couples counsilling and work out what the problem is. I’m sure you’ll be able to get through it.

    Good luck!

  6. burke48186 says:

    counseling

  7. meeshness says:

    sounds like im reading something my husband could write. were in the same boat. im suffering depression at the moment it doesn’t matter what he tries to do i sort of push him away even though i don’t mean to. im getting help from my doctor, try talking to your wife again tell her how worried you are. she might open up she might not. suggest going to see a marriage counselor. just remember to tell her you love her everyday. hope it all works out for you both x

  8. beach heaven says:

    My husband and I have been married for almost 29 years, together for 30. We have been through a lot of ups and downs. It sound as if you have been doing most everything right. Have you tried counseling? Actually I hate to bring this up, but is there a possibility someone else could be in the picture?

  9. Debbie B says:

    Sorry to hear about your dilemma. She could be goon through a depression, mid life crisis or hormone problem. Seek professional help.

  10. craig b says:

    10 years and I’ll bet you know <1% of who she really is!

    Time to do the work that should’ve been going on all along.
    Question: Do you have any cookbooks in the house? Why?
    (Don’t you know how to cook?)
    Do you have any relationship books in the house? Why?
    (10 yrs – don’t you know how to do relationship?)

    Hit the books buddy! In this you will show your wife that you are finally desiring to find her heart.

    1. Captivating by Stasi Eldredge
    2. Wild at Heart by John Eldredge
    3. The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
    4. Love, Honor and Forgive by Pam Farell
    5. Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs
    6. His Needs – Her Needs by Willard Harley
    marriagebuilders.com
    divorcecare.com (this is not just for divorced people! Almost everyone that goes through this 13 weeks says that they wish they had known this stuff BEFORE they got married!)

    And don’t ever stop with this! Go to church together. Get involved in a couples Bible Study. You want to do the hardest thing you can and will ever do? Pray for your wife. Hold her under the covers and pray to God (out loud) for her. I guarantee that she will cry and so will you!

  11. adjacent says:

    she’s having an affair that she is emotionally attached to…if she loves you its only enough to spare your feelings from the truth…move on and let her go…you deserve more believe get out and be happy….if she has any love left for you losing you will turn her around faster than any vacation…she needs to realize your worth…and if she doesn’t hey you saved yourself ten more years of a boring unfulfilled marriage, believe there are tons of women who have a good head on their shoulders who would love a man to romance her ! Good Luck!

  12. Chloe.L says:

    Sounds a little like u two may need some marriage counseling to help sort out the communication problem, it must be something deep down that she maybe afraid to tell u. Just try a few sessions and see how u go.

  13. Used88 says:

    It sounds to me like you are doing everything that you possibly can. In order for your marriage to be save, SHE needs to be the one to step up. My advice is to go to a marriage counselor. When I was married, I found that it was impossible for me to communicate directly with my husband but, when we were in therapy, it was a lot easier for me to open up about how I was feeling. I think for me, having the third person took a lot of pressure off me & she had a way of helping both of us see how the other was feeling. I know that if he & I had talked about a lot of that stuff on our own, it would’ve led to huge fights because we would’ve taken everything the wrong way & not been willing to really listen to what the other person was trying to say.

    Anyway, I think I made my point.. Marriage counseling is my suggestion. I highly recommend it.

  14. jude says:

    she’s depressed, and when your depressed its hard to be able to make the changes one needs to do to save a marriage. when your depressed its like u know what needs to be done but your unable to do it. she probably does love u, she needs some help.

  15. rockthetoaster says:

    Fireproof was a great movie! Did you know that the book his dad gave him in the movie is real? I am doing it right now. It’s called the Love Dare. I got mine online at discountbooks.com for about 5 dollars. Just pray and have patience.

  16. merlie says:

    Maybe she can’t communicate what she wants because she herself doesn’t really know. All this time you have been together… keep trying. Maybe marriage counseling would help

  17. Hale says:

    couples therapy

  18. lucylocket7258 says:

    Sounds like she may be going through some sort of depression. Get her to talk to her doctor…Us girls go through so many hormonal changes and if she seeks help, you will see her change her feelings. Hang in there, I know its not easy but it also sounds like she loves you very much.

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  1. Irene says:

    I recently started a blog with the purpose of helping couples in distress save their marriage. You can go to the blog and start with the post: "Save Your Marriage – Start up exercise". Also go to About the blog to see how to navigate the blog.

    To go to the blog: http://irenesavarese.com/blog/

    Sincerely Irene Savarese, Marriage and Family Therapist.

  2. Summer says:

    Well, what’s wrong with it?

  3. Grant says:

    Try learning to communicate better!

  4. Keeping it real says:

    pray

  5. Wassim says:

    count to 10 or maybe 100 or maybe 100000

  6. shahid h says:

    Why this question? Have you done any thing wrong to spoil your marriage? If so what wrong? If nothing , and your marriage life is going smooth , then no need to raise this question.
    to run a smooth marriage life, is to have better understanding with each other , having respect to each other and to satisfy physically and emotionally each other.This is the best way to smoothen your marriage.

  7. Anonymous says:

    Are you married to someone who wants to save the marriage – cos you can’t do it on your own.

  8. Petre says:

    get a divorce.

  9. Rebecca says:

    well what is wrong with it?

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How to save my marriage?

We have been married for four wonderful years, the last two we have been trying so hard to get pregnant, it’s me not him. We have done fertility treatments, going back and forth to the doctor. He wants a baby more than anything, I would love to bring life into this world but not under these circumstances. Lately we argue about things that we don’t really need to argue about, these treatments have been putting stress on both of us. I can’t remember the last time we have had just a moment of intimacy when it’s been just about us. I’m suppose to go back to the doctor to give it another shot, but I suggested maybe we just stop for a while because it’s causing issues we got into a huge fight and he left. Please anything anyone can tell me. I’m only twenty-six so there is still time to have children, I don’t want to see my first marriage end.

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  1. mak25 says:

    A common missing ingredient for marriages in trouble is a lack of intimacy. For a marriage to be happy there must be a level of intimacy that goes beyond the physical and wholeheartedly embraces the emotional. Ask yourself this, “does my marriage suffer from a lack of intimacy?”

    Are you open and transparent with your spouse? Do you share and include or do you exclude and keep your emotions and emotional needs locked away and try and deal with things on…

  2. MM says:

    If he wants a baby more than he wants to make sure that baby is born into a family with parents who work as a team and who are able to support each other through hard times (especially when one’s hit a breaking point), then I think taking a step back would benefit him as much as you. The trick is reminding him that there’s more to being ready to be parents than just conceiving – so as long as you’re working on that aspect, you’re not really stopping the process. You might also want to talk to your fertility doctor; I’m sure you’re not the first couple that’s run up against these issues, and they might have some resources for you.

  3. Heather R says:

    You should stop "trying" to have a baby. I swear you’ll get pregnant. It has happend to me and lots of other ppl. It will happen when it is supposed to. Work on your marriage so that when you do get pg you’ll have a happy mom and dad for him.

  4. Capricorn says:

    Sorry to hear that. I’d say skip the fertility treatments and just pray that God bless u all with a child. In the meantime, consider adopting. My sister just adopted a baby girl in Chicago who was 2 days old. She went to the hospital and picked her up when it was time for her to check out. So, u can adopt a new born sooner than 3 months.

  5. John W says:

    The focus should always first be on the marriage…even after you have children. Want to be the best parents in the world to a kid? Have a great marriage. Sounds like it’s time to take a break and get back to the basics of your relationship. As hard as it may be to hear, you may have to accept the reality that you have to salvage your marriage at the sake of getting pregnant. It probably makes you angry when people say that you should just adopt, but it may be the best way for you to have your cake and eat it too. Best of luck to you.

  6. celticagent says:

    There’s adoption to consider. You can adopt a baby as young as 3 months old.

  7. alexis88883 says:

    I think when you are young like you are, everyone thnks of divorce. Anger, fights, etc. do not mean you are getting a divorce.

  8. *Cleopatra Gandhi* says:

    Life is the way it is, if you can not have a child, why you do not consider adoption ??? So many kids in need for a lovely parents… : )

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I am in afghanistan right now on a deployment, i go on R&R in August and wont be done with the deployment until Feb 2011. My wife and i used to be so deeply in love and i still am but she says she loves me more like a friend now. it happened kind of suddenly one week she was telling me she loves me then goes on a trip to see an old friend. she is there for 2 days and comes back saying she kissed him and she didnt go there having feelings for him but left thinking that she does. when i found out it tore me apart, it felt like my heart was being ripped into pieces. i have to admit there have been a lot of bad times during our marriage of only 1 1/2 years but there have also been a lot of very very good times. we believed and i still believe we are soul mates. i havent been the best husband in the world and i have broken some promises to her that i hate myself for. i only want us to be happy and i told her that everything would be ok from now on. that when i got back everything was going to be like the moment we fell in love. she says she will try to believe me and will try to wait but doesnt know if she can wait that long for me. if anyone has ever been in this type of situation or has any advice on things i could do to help my marriage work out it would mean the world to me. i love my wife with all my heart and i dont want to lose her. thank you for any help.

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  1. Kimmi_22 says:

    I understand that you are hurt and have been through a lot but why would you want to save something that she has already let go of? Its not fair to you. She made a commitment to you and didn’t honor it. You need to get back safe and take care of yourself obviously she is taking care of what she needs and isn’t worried about what your feeling. How on earth could you do something like that to the man you supposedly love who is fighting for our country. Maybe she doesn’t appreciate you but I do, she sounds like a Whore to me.

    Thank you for all you do and god bless you!

  2. Curious says:

    Hey buddy, that is a tough one. Is there anyone on your home base that deals specifically with military spousal difficulties or spousal separation anxiety? Being away is very tough on both of you and you are probably very young as well. I would try to get a professional from your base to reach out to her as communication from that far away isn’t very easy and you need to keep your mind on what you are doing. You could mention this to her and perhaps they have some coping techniques that would ease her mind until you return in February.

    I hope it works out for you, stay safe and thanks for all you do for us!!!

  3. Jessica says:

    Deployment is hard.
    She may be feeling lonely, and like her needs aren’t being met.
    This "other" man is giving her the attention she wants so it’s attracting her towards him.
    I’d talk to your wife about it and tell her how you really feel.

  4. Danyell says:

    HI ANDREW,,,honey,,send her flowers,,if you email her,do it every chance you get,,really let her no,u will even go to a marriage counselar,,with her,dont give up,,cause this guy that she kissed,may not want to commit to her,like you do,just mayb,he was trying to get a booty call,i wish u lots of luck,,,,PEACE

  5. marc s says:

    I don’t really know how to answer this question but you should tell her what you just told all of us. I hope everything turns out well for you.

    That old friend sounds like an ass by the way. Good luck!

  6. I_love_bush says:

    Hey, battle, I myself was a former soldier before being injured and having to come home and see things nobody in the war zone coming home should see. I had to deal with a lot of c rap and my "fiance" moving on which, sadly, does happen. It is best to let her go, get a divorce because even if you were to come back tomorrow, her love for you is not as strong as it used to be and trying to make it work will only hurt you in the future. being military, you will have no problem finding someone else. Trust me on that, I was severely injured and healed 35% before coming home and they were all over me. Good luck battle, and hit me up if you need someone to talk to.

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  1. Sarah M says:

    Try this website, it really helped me a lot

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    Hope this helps.
    Sincerely,

    Sarah

  2. Kat H says:

    I don’t know what’s wrong with your marriage, so it’s kind of hard to say how to save it, especially since you’ve tried everything. Maybe you guys could start dating again, once or twice a week. Romance each other. The only person you can change is yourself, so make the first move. Offer to give him a backrub, cook his favorite dinner, set up an awesome date to somewhere that he loves. Good luck.

  3. Cliff R says:

    With nothing to give us a basis as to what the problem(s) is/are it is difficult to give advice. Generally, if both parties are willing to work on the marriage then all is not lost. But if only one of the two want the marriage to work is willing to work on it, it is very difficult to salvage the marriage. Write back and give us some details, or you can communicate directly with me and I’ll offer what advice I can based on the situation.
    I find that open and honest communication between the two partners is the best place to start. Talking without getting defensive, hurt, upset, mean or whatever is hard to do but can be done as long as both are willing. But again need more info to help you specific situations.

  4. Simaitoh says:

    Try to freeze the account abt 3 or 4yrs and open another saving account without the card.

  5. Georgio Golgani Top Contributor says:

    Save marriage?

    Save marriage?

    Hmmmmm….now why would you want to do that?

  6. Bernie D says:

    Communication is key. I’m big on this. People communicate in different ways. Thats one of the big things counselors focus on. You may communicate in a different way then your spouse does. Counseling could help. If you can’t get your spouse to do that, you could both start reading about healthy communication. Once lines are open, you’ll be able to identify problems and hopefully reach compromise. Good luck.

  7. Tsunami says:

    well you have not said too much of how or what is wrong? well the first thing is he fooling around if hes found someone else there is no reason to save it. you can’t cause would you want to live with someone that loves someone else? nope is the answer. so therefore you have to move on. if you are having troubel and only you see it then it can’t be helped cause hes not trying and could care less. he feels ther eis not a problem a therapits could maybe help or minister priest or whatever but it has to be wanted by both of you take care

  8. i love zeppelin says:

    me too. i’m giving up. please just don’t do what most people do and come up with "investments", such as a new car, a dog or the worst, a baby… those things never stick a marriage together, they just make things harder. how long has this been going on? i’m with you and don’t worry, life can be great on your own. i am 24 and have been married for 4 years. its sad, but that’s life and there’s no point in being miserable.
    be strong
    :)

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How to save my marriage

Please help! I have been with husband for almost 5 years; we had a fight and I dont know if I shloud make the effort to save this or just divorce. I love him, but sometimes he is very offensive with me and I lost control of me and I slapped him. He fought back and hit me. I think is my fault because I started but he really hurt me (he is 6′ 200 pounds and I am 5′ 130 pounds) so he has more strenght than I do. I dont want to live like this; I want to change but when he calls me names I loose it. Sometimes I daydream about divorce, some days I am afraid, because I dont have a lot of family or friends here, my family is overseas and I dont know what to do. Please help.
also, I only slapped because he calls me lazy, hippie, good for nothing. I am unemployed right now, but I pay my half of all bills, he is not giving me any money. Thanks for all the answers

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  1. shy_gal2 says:

    Ok I know that you got pissed off and you let it sink in and you slapped him right? Well that was wrong and you shouldn’t have done that because it wasn’t good enough reason to slap him. Maybe you did start it by slapping him but I’m not defending him because he shouldn’t have hit you either. Look I’ve been married for almost 3 years now and I’ve only slapped him once and he knew that he deserved it. My husband would never lay a hand on me not even if I deserved it. Sometimes us women get really pissed off and slap our men, but it’s not right.

    You shouldn’t think about a divorce yet. If you know you love him and think he still loves you than you should go to therapy TOGETHER or Marriage Counseling. That’s the first step to fixing a marriage. After that if you still feel that it will go no where then it’s your decision. Remember, never stay with a man just because your afraid or because you don’t have family near by. You should always depend only on yourself and never on men because they’ll start thinking that they control you and can do whatever they want with you. I wish you good luck and try making the right decision. Take care

  2. `LisHa... says:

    You guys need to go seek counsealing.
    Me && my Husband fight alot too && sometimes its over stupid little shit and he already told me twice that he would get a divorce with me.
    Then i told him next time he says that then lets do it. I am not going to keep hearing it just so it will hurt me and make me upset. && i also told him he don’t know what he has until its gone i treat my husband like a KING for real. Our fights are stupid its cause i am snoopy but hey i have the right to know everything in a marriage there is no privacy anymore. I am not looking for stuff to get a divorce i just wanna make sure he is being good. i love this man to death
    if you lo0ve each other you need to get help
    but if you feel its not going to work you need to make it work
    marriage is forever
    that is the man you choosed
    so suck it up
    and do what you have to do to fix things…

  3. †Evonne† says:

    There is no fight worth divorce. You both must keep your hands to yourselves. Control yourselves and your temper. You both must learn to respect one another.
    If you truly want to save your marriage, you should know that everything starts with God.
    Both of you need to get into a Bible based Church and get right with God. Hearing the gospel preached is like food for the soul.

    -Ephesians 5 – Wives and Husbands
    22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
    25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."[c] 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

    -Colossians 3:19
    Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

    ______________________________

    -What prevents God from hearing our prayers? (Psalms 102:1-2)
    God’s hearing is never impaired (Psalms 94:9). But the language of Biblical poetry sometimes pictures God as though we were deaf (Deut. 1:45). This was simply a figurative way to say that God does not always respond to requests as people might want. Sometimes answers come only after long delays; other times answers may come in an unrecognized form or in a manner the petitioner would not have wanted.
    *Effective prayer requires that the one praying have the right attitudes: reverence, humility, proper motivation and purity.
    *Ineffectual prayer—that which God seems to ignore—often results from the lack of such qualities.

    Here are a few examples:
    *Irreverence: God may ignore those who are irreverent (Psalms 50:21).
    *Pride: God wants to help those who are humble in spirit, not those who are proud (James 4:6).
    *Self-seeking: When people pray for selfish reasons, God may refuse their requests (James 4:3).
    *Sin: Disobeying God can separate someone from God and cause prayers to go "unanswered" (Isaiah 59:1-2).
    *Unbelief: Spiritual instability can undermine prayers (James 1:6-7).

    ***Broken relationships: A husband’s prayers may be hindered if he has treated his wife disrespectfully (1 Peter 3:7).

  4. Lynn Z says:

    Please, please, please be sure to take your birth control!

    You two are not good for each other. You both have anger issues – yes his slaps can do more damage than yours – but you hitting first? Clearly you both like to add gasoline to the fire.

    Since there are no kids and since you don’t seem to really like each other – why not split and breath some fresh air?
    Even being alone is better than the insults, yelling and slapping.

    Get some help for yourself before you get into a new relationship – understand why you dont’ mind a little insult, yelling and slapping around.

  5. Moni says:

    Well there is obviously physical abuse, and it’s got to stop. Maybe the best things if for you two to take a brake and see what you both want.

  6. Meir says:

    Don’t leave your husband unless there has been infidelity. All the hitting and name-calling has to stop…it’s as simple as that. It’s up to the both of you to make it happen. You can do it. Never break your marriage vows, no matter what. Good luck.

    Excellent answer, Evonne!

  7. just a girl says:

    I say divorce. Go home to your family for a visit at least. Spend some time away from each other. He needs to understand that hitting a woman is NEVER okay. You slapped him, yeah. He had NO right to do anything back. He is bigger and stronger and a REAL man knows that and show restrain from raising his hand to a woman even when provoked. He needs to know NOW that you are not going to stand for that. Men cannot hit women. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. You provoked him but he was in the wrong.

  8. big kahuna says:

    every marriage is worth saving, yeah it wasnt right to get violent, seek some counseling,itll help to talk things out

  9. crazy sexy cool says:

    firstly even though you were the one to start with him, he still had no right to put his hands on you, i do agree that you were totally wrong for hitting him first, but still he was wrong for hitting you back, now the fact that he did that, there are no guarantees that he won’t try it again, and most likely it can be where he hits you w/o u starting in on him first, so if u fear for your life like u say u do,then i suggest that you get out of that relationship, you are not safe w/him, and he may hit you again.

  10. Nurse Cyndi says:

    If you guys truly love each other and want to work it out get counseling
    from personal experience if you guy truly love each other and want to fix this you can my hubby and i were able to save our marriage thank god because i love him

  11. Heather says:

    both of you need therapy

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How to save my marriage?

My husband is fond of website PORN and had evidence that he took a prostitute one time(only one proof and I might have miss more).

Is this a wife’s problem or husband’s? I am a wife and I think I am worried about my husband not having sex with me but he is fund of pornography and prostitutes. How can I tell him to be safe so I wont get any STD?

I recently took a leave from work because I am worried about our marriage. Taking a leave made me discover a lot of my husband’s secret. I recently learned that he went to a prostitute bar last month and that he spen $1,000. I know he watch porn and even pay for it online because I saw him sending money to the prostitute.

I am 9 years younger than my husband. I am slim, tan, intelligent (had MBA), working class, drive my own car, have my own house, God fearing, healthy and funny. ( I just mentioned the brighter part of me- hehehe… actually I am so sad now)

My questions are:

1. Am I martyr?
2. Am I crazy?
3. What do you think of a wife like me?

Let us say you were my husband what do you want to tell me if I confronted you about me knowing you spen a night at the bar with girls?
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thank you everybody I am in great sorrow and you advice is so helpful. I still wanted my first marrieage to last forever. I am so sorry now.

Thank you again and GOd bless you all.
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I guess my husband is impotent because of the hypertension medicines he is taking. My fault is that I am telling him that he can let his D*&k get hard for me… was it a bad word to say?

Sometimes he would say it is because of the sleeping pills or the pain medicines he is taking.

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  1. Awake Sage Author Omid Mankoo says:

    There is a tremendous amount of hidden mind manipulation within many sexual presentations disguised as regular sexual attraction. Becoming familiar with them and the methods to free oneself from these unwanted intrusive elements is important. They are written in the book which I mention in the below sources section.

    in addition I have a yahoo group on sexual addiction at:
    http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sagessolution

    there are natural medicines that deal with hypertension, which will not affect his sexual organ’s function.

  2. Ms Kay says:

    I agree with single momma of 1. Your husband has definitely broken your trust in him. If he is not willing to accept help. Then it means that he does not want to or is not willing to make a change for the marriage. Also, try offering him what may possibly be arousing him by watching porn as long as it does not go against your character.

  3. Single Momma of 1 says:

    If you are a good God fearing woman, why are you defending his addiction to porn. I would have him get help. If he chooses not to then I would not stay in the marriage. It sounds like you are so unhappy. Ending a marriage is never easy but sometimes it is for the best.

  4. Captain says:

    I’ll start this off with a disclaimer. I’m 20. The only credibility I have is that I am very observant – so take my response with a grain of salt.

    I had a little trouble understanding you, but as far as I understand, he had a prostitute while you were together? You are definately a very strong wife to accept that from him.

    When you say God-fearing, it could mean that you are too shy to be having conversations about sex with him, since many religions view anything other than vanilla sex to be impure, or something not to be talked about.

    So, as a result, there are two things that pop into my head. The first is that he just likes being with strange women, or is turned on to pay for sex.
    Slightly more likely is that he MIGHT be hiring a prostitute because he isn’t getting his sexual fantasies fulfilled. He may be too shy to talk to you about what they are, and is seeking a prostitute instead. Have you spoken to him about this? Have you spoken to him about any of it. If he doesn’t feel comfortable enough around you, he might go out just to save his own pride.

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We’re very young, been married for 2 yrs (together for 5), live 2700 miles from our family & friends, and are on a very restricted budget. With that being said, I need some advice on how to save my marriage… My husband is boring! He doesn’t want to go out and do stuff anymore. Dinner & a movie happens sometimes but gets really old, really fast. I suggest cheap or free things to try (since our financial situation sucks right now) but he’s not interested. I’m a very social person and he used to be too but for about 8 months, we’ve done nothing but sit in our house and watch tv or get drunk every weekend. Our sex life is good, but I feel so neglected because we aren’t connecting on any other level. I’m starting to resent him and I don’t want to leave but I’m really ready to moove back home without him so that I can get my life back… I know you guys might suggest me going out without him so I fulfill my "social needs", but the point is that I want to do stuff TOGETHER and he’s not interested.

HELP PLEASE?

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  1. Gardenbella says:

    Nobody said marriage was ever going to be easy, and if they did, they were lying. It’s perfectly normal in a marriage to have disagreements and times when things involve a little more effort than they used to. In an ideal world we would sit and talk about these changes and differences in a calm and rational manner, and establish an outcome and move on. Unfortunately things don’t always work like that. Its all too easy to get caught up in the moment and let things deteriorate to the point where you are both wondering why you are still in it. Looking for answers then click here for http://www.savemymarriage.truebluetips.com/

  2. Samantha says:

    first of all, you may very well want to schedule your husband a doctors appointment, as losing interest in going out and doing things you’d normally enjoy is a sign of depression, a common, treatable condition. It may very well be depression due to leaving behind your friends and family. However, if your husband just doesnt like going out, talk to him! Tell him you love going out (and showing him off (: ), and that you really miss doing things besides dinner and a movie. If you are really enthusiastic about going out again, tell him to pick an event/place to try. Otherwise, suggest one of your ideas. Also, to feel more connected, it helps to learn more about eachother. Maybe you guys could write down 10 questions for eachother and answer them. It sounds dumb, but is very fun. Good luck, i hope this works, as it has helped my friends!!!

  3. Travis says:

    Well since you guys have a good sex life, maybe you should tell him you’ll give him head in the car and then take him to a friends house but on the way give him head and then he’ll feel obligated to hang out with you that night. I hardly think he wouldn’t be interested, just don’t tell him about the social part till just before the bj and your far from home in the car alone.

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How to save my marriage?

i’m 28 years old. marriage for almost 3 years. im so inlove with my husband. i become very jealous and doubt and because of that he became cold. im trying to change but seems too late. he never kiss me, talk to me and lovemake, he didn’t even want to sleep beside me. One more thing is maybe because of my weight, after i gave birth i gain lot ofweight. what should i have to do to save our marriage? Do he still love me? Please give me advice.

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  1. Gretta says:

    I think your husband still loves you, but that there is deep hurt within the relationship. Hurtful words and continual neglect on your part could make him resentful and cold to you. Also, if you have given up your position as loving wife to be loving mother and spend what little time the two of you have together argueing…well, he might be hurt about that also. I don’t think it’s as much the weight as how you are acting toward him, but I’m sure loosing a few pounds would help spark your love life :) .
    My advice is to purchase the book "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands". It is wonderful!!!! It really puts into perspective, what a man wants and needs in marriage and how giving him what he wants and needs, makes the wife happy as well.
    Marriage is hard work for both people involved. Most of the time what we put into something is what we get in return. So think of it that way. Would you expect full-time pay for part-time work?
    Tonight when your man comes home, have a hot meal on the table for him. Have your hair and makeup fixed, legs shaved, nice outfit, nails polished, his favorite perfume, and get a baby-sitter for the little one for a couple of hours. Tell him that this is the start of a new you and a new relationship for the two of you. Tell him how much you love and need him and that you have taken for granted everything that he does for you , but that is about to change because as his wife your sole purpose is to make him proud to be your husband. Talk, that’s what you need to do. Let it all out and let him share his feelings.
    Make a lifestyle change for yourself, not a diet. Start eating right and exercising. This will make YOU feel better about YOU, which in turn will make you happier and a more enjoyable person to be around. Mayber alot of your jealousy stems from your low self-esteem related to your weight gain. That is easily remedied. Start today!!!
    http://www.drlaura.com/blog/2007/11/16/thoughts-from-a-soon-to-be-ex-husband/#more-57
    Copy and paste this address and read the article. Its sad really. Dr. Laura is also the author of the book I recommended.

    I wish you the best and God bless!!!

  2. Don says:

    From what I can understand is that your husband is cold because he may feel that you don’t trust him any more which has brought this on, I would sit and talk to him about how you feel but more to the point of how he feels make it about him, maybe the weight thing is some of the problem but I don’t believe it is the whole problem I think there is a deeper underlying problem that has pushed him away from you, if he is still with you then yes I believe he still loves you, you may have a lot of work ahead of you good luck and I hope everything works out.

    PS. just out of interest did this start to happen soon after the birth of your child ?. if so he may be feeling unwanted and unloved because as we parents know having a child and looking after them take up a lot of your time and tend to distance parents from a one on one social evening . Just a thought.

  3. jakemcqueen says:

    love is something that is a natural thing. a person cannot make someone love them this is something that is from their side of the heart, so you had his baby and now you have gotten a little fat .. size weight and all others things should not interrupt love ..love is for keeps no matter what changes, looks and things like that goes beyond the factor of real love..it seems to me that this man never loved you in the first place ..when two marry its for keeps in my opinion and nothing should ever separate people who are truly and earnestly in love… first thing you should do is pray about this and put you life in the hands of the lord God of heaven and seek his will for you life…

  4. free_angel says:

    Tell him he better start showing that he wants you.

  5. rumplestiltskin12357 says:

    Are you still the person he married?
    If you weren’t jealous before, then don’t be now.
    If you put on the weight suddenly, then you can loose it suddenly.

  6. simple_dimples21 says:

    have a heart to heart talk w/ your husband. tell him all your feelings. ask him waht u want him to do & everything.

  7. Peter C says:

    of course he still love you. Do you still love him?? If you still love him, be more faith,concern for him. i believe he can feel it. right?

  8. surfinlizrd222 says:

    lose weight but he should love you so idk

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We are a young couple (Im 26 he’s 27). Weve been married for a year and some change. We had little squabbles here and there like normal couples, but for the past month hes been acting strange. When I try to talk to him I get dismissed or a terse response. Whenever he wants sex (a lot) I feel like I have to say yes. And sex isnt even fun anymore b/c hes so aggressive. The other day we went out with a group of friends and I kinda embarrassed him (long story) but I made a semi public apology. On the way home he kept rehashing what happened. The arguement continued at home and things got physical when he pinned me against the wall and yelled at me like a child. I was so pissed, I made him sleep in the living room and gave him the silent treatment. Hes been trying to apologize but Im not having it. Anyway if things continue like this i know were headed for divorce. Ive tried talking to him in the past but he is so unresponsive. What should I do?

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  1. keriss says:

    Well i don’t belive that a man should put his hands on a woman. He should have just left to cool off. That should never happen again. and as far as sex, i went through that with my ex fiance and i have to admit something has to change because for me i had to end it. I gave him sex all he wanted and i began to just lay there because i didn’t want him anymore. You guys need counseling out a mediator someone that you trust. If you do something now it can be saved but does he want it to be saved?

  2. RockerGirl says:

    give it one more chance you never know good luck girl

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How to save my marriage?

my husband and I are at a tight spot right now. He thinks I hate him, we haven’t really talked in 2 days, he sleeps on the couch, it just gets worse everyday. here are some details he had alot of problems in the beginning of the marriage, he was a drunk, and a womanizer, I stuck by him because I knew he could change. Well he did, hasn’t had a drink in more than a year and the abuse has stopped. He thinks I always disrespect him when I say things to him but I’m just being honest with what I say. ihave tried to do everything he has asked for be sweet, nice dont worry about everything, but then he takes advangate of my kindness and makes me even more mad. I really want to save my marriage but I’m clueless, my mom just easily tells me to leave him but I dont want to I want to fix our problems, he just thinks he is perfect now and doesn’t do anything wrong. I know I do alot of things wrong but when I try to do right it goes unseen…I need some advice.
cheating isn’t something to worry about, we at least have trust.

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13 Responses to How to save my marriage?

  1. jazz_lover_25 says:

    It sounds like your husband still has a little bit of the "womanizer" in him. Problems just don’t go away without being resolved. It’s good that you want to save your marriage, but you need someone to help you guys really hear each other out and understand each other. Get into counseling immediately.

  2. LAURIE PRINCESS OF THE FOREST says:

    Hello, have two talked about a marriage counselor maybe that ca work for you if he con ciders it or your place of worship maybe that can work too.or just communicating with each other is very much the key to long and happy marriage.it’s hard to leave the one you love but also he has to open up and communicate that’s very important to air out both of your difference’s and don’t yell or argue it’s always good to have a third person a marriage counselor there to hear both sides. Good luck Friend..

  3. aninha says:

    Sometimes the best answer is to let the time goes by. Don’t decide anything right now. Review your life. Take a breath.

  4. Fast Steve says:

    Of course he is going to think you hate him if you are not talking… You need to talk to him and love him where he is at… Seek counseling and help for you and this marriage or it will end up falling apart. You are not perfect and he is not either BUT you can only work on changing yourself to be the partner and wife you need to be for him. You have to treat and love him the way you would want him to treat and love you. Why in the world is he on the couch ? Did you kick him out of the bed?

  5. Tasha says:

    The first thing you should know is that alcohol abuse does mess you up in the head and unless he had proper counceling his old tendencies will still be there. I know how you feel. Mine was the same but not abusive, but an addict. We’ve been together for 5 years and it’s an uphill battle. The good times are few and short for that matter. But love keeps us together. Slowly things improve but don’t expect them to get 100 percent better. You just get better at dealing with them.

  6. Add Man says:

    Being sober for a year really isn’t all that long in the larger scheme of things. On the other hand be grateful for every single day he has been sober and pray for the days ahead when he still will be. As for the respect issue he has – you may want to examine the manner in which you are delivering your stuff to him. Often times, I have learned over the years that my wife’s communication skills lack, say a gentle hand. And therefore I have often misinterpreted what she’s actually telling me. I admire your commitment to working thing out so If I were you I’d explore seeing a third party to mediate with the both of. Maybe a family counselor of sorts could help. Good luck.

  7. Lubz says:

    Sure looks like you are in a tight spot. But its nice to see that even though you are in such a situation, you are sticking by his side. That really shows you love him alot, no matter what happens. I am not married yet but from reading your problem, the advice i can give is to stay with you husband and try your best to solve your problem. As you said he has stopped drinking, you know that he can change. He has the ability in him to change. All he needs is motivation, support and push in the right direction. Ofcourse no one is perfect; everyone has their faults. World is not perfect. I suugest that if you have any pictures or any videos that shows the fun times you both shared, maybe you can bring them out and refresh his memories of how much you do love him; not hate him. Try to support him and encourage him and not blame him. Show him examples of what he is doing wrong, so that he can see it from his own eyes instead of thinking you are blaming him. Maybe i am going all over the place but i hope it helpes to save you marriage. I wish you all the very best.

  8. Mister Cool says:

    A marriage consists of two people, each only having control to the extent of themselves, and not over the other. A marriage can be saved only if both people respectively want that goal and work towards it. Try individual therapy first, get your own head together, chances are that each of you are trying to look to the other to fill an individual unfilled need which only the individual themselves can fulfill, and not any other person.

  9. Janst says:

    Both of you need professional Marriage counseling. If you want you marriage to work. It sounds as if their is a lot of hurt of both sides. A lot of baggage on both sides. If you truly want to save your marriage talk to a professional

  10. John K says:

    Your husband is likely an alcoholic who is simply abstaining from drinking. Abstention alone will not cause him to change his basic outlook on life and approach toward others. And, he will likely relapse with abstention alone. He should go into rehab where he will learn tools that will change his outlook on life and his way of relating to others. It will also greatly increase his chances of long term sobriety. You might consider going to AlAnon.

  11. SillyKimmie says:

    A husband needs to feel appreciated, respected, needed, supported, encouraged, and needs affection from his wife. If he was like this before you two married, then you set yourself up for this and had it coming. People don’t change after they get married, we expect them to, but they don’t. People can change for the better if they really put their heart into it. There are things in the relationship that you are doing that is destructive. I suggest two books, The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands and The Proper Care & Feeding of Marriage by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. You’ll be able to relate.
    You need to do some changing too. It’s not just one person that needs to change. You have to want to change, you have to stick with it, and stick with it to make it a part of your daily life for good. Think about the things you are doing that’s pushing your husband away. I hope you and him do some thinking…

  12. sbratt2 says:

    For better or worse, tell death do you part! Communicate, talk to him.

    Tell him everything, exactly how you feel (Right or Wrong, bad or good). Make him realize that Marriage is TEAM WORK, and if he wants his marriage as bad as you do he will do something about it. Sometimes, people’s head get blown up, BUT! Some must pop it for them to send them back to reality… Marriage is a two way street, work together!

  13. boomboom says:

    Nothing we say here will help. You need to see a marriage counselor. Both of you have some communication issues that need to be addressed by a professional. I think that it is worth a try. Your mom sees you unhappy and she just wants to protect her daughter. But if you feel you want to save your marriage then you should give it a shot at therapy. Not all marriages begin great, but it does not mean if BOTH of you are willing to give it your all then it could end up great. If all else fails, then you can walk away knowing you did everything in your power to save it.

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how to save my marriage??

my husband and I have been arguing for the past week…..but the thing is its about trust..before me and my husband got married he had cheated on me for the past 2 and a half years. and now he has change alot. but the thing is he is disrespecting me and dont think that he is hurting me…for example complimenting girls on his myspace. or writing them constently…what should I do or am I overreacting??

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