a lot of experts say that if one spouse wants a divorce just go with it like OK if you want one, i agree. that way you’re not arguing anymore. some people say pour your heart out with your estranged spouse….that usually doesn’t work either. here’s my question. i was with a very insecure woman. she wanted a divorce because she had trust issues from the very start (obviously she’d been hurt multiple times by people including her family), accused me of affairs, needed me to be around all the time and i mean all the time. then she got scared that i’d hurt her and wants a divorce. experts say just leave them alone and move on to show them you are strong. not sure with a really insecure woman. Anybody have any advice on how i can get through to my estranged wife? it’s only been a few months since we separated and judging by her anger, she really didn’t want this. she said she did in her words but her anger over everything now that were getting divorced seems to show otherwise.
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maybe some counseling would benefit the two of you
Seems like you probably hurt her in a way or more and made things worse for her… you both went into another relationship way too soon after your previous Relationship… That’s why people say to make sure of soemthing like that and to know what you get yourself getting into… before making any major decisions.
Ok… now to get to your point and answer your question… if I would stopped my divorce… I’d only do it ones and only for a good reason… like my Husband would have to realy show me that he loves me & wants me back… for any price… that he’d do anything for me… fight for me… tell me truly how he feels about me & everything etc.
It also depends on the way our marriage was and why we or I filed for a Divorce in the first place.
In order for me to stop the divorce… both of us would have to completely agree to it… and of course I have to be sure that I still love that man… Good Luck !!
Hope this helps to make your decision : )
Think about what you want. Do you want to spend the rest of your life trying to prove to her who you are. I am 57 and I have learn that women or men change little over a life time. Do you want to deal with this when your 57? Move on and forget her.Drama queens are forever…
If u really love her, give her assurance again and again. Insecure is normal for certain ladies, some even severe cases. It takes time, but it will come through eventually. I think she still loves you, but she’s confused and dont want to be hurt again and again. Help her through this, she’s having some issues… interpersonal conflicts.
I would still go with the divorce, if it has gone that far…it means its over…
She has a lot of issues to deal with, she needs to deal with them and not get involved with anyone…Once she is better, than she can get with someone…If that’s you down the road, people get remarried to the same person sometimes…
Go with the divorce. You are obviously not able to make her happy. She will get scared, of course, but at the end she will realize that the divorce was the best option for her. It will give her a chance to meet a person who will truly be able to make her happy.
The way the things are going now will never get any better. You clearly put the entire blame on her only. In your mind, she is the only one at fault for your failed marriage. You need to let her go and give her the chance to find her happiness with someone else who will understand her needs better than you do.