Comments on: Married and divorced women: Did you stop?

By: msims52

msims52 — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

I know what was and don’t miss it, or him, one bit. I am in a much better place!!

By: i_b_winkn_at_u

i_b_winkn_at_u — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

I’m soon to be divorced and I will ALWAYS wonder about my ex.

By: KMP

KMP — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

I don’t wonder what could have been – I wonder if he is still an alcoholic and seeing prostitutes and if he’s managed to stay alive.

By: jaimi b

jaimi b — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

NO. I don’t think anyone truly does. You always look to them and wonder…and they are who made you today. Experiences, choices, all…they make up who you become. Whether it was good or bad. Life brings you these chances. It’s healthy to let yourself wonder, and it will also make you appreciate what you have now more too sometimes.

By: free_angel

free_angel — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

The only time I think about them is when I see their names in the newspaper under "Court cases tried" and am so very extremely glad I didn’t marry them.

By: Dave T

Dave T — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

I am planning my divorce right now and I already don’t care what she is doing and we still live under the same roof. In fact, I DON’T want to know what she is doing. She’s unattractive, selfish and a child inside, why should I care about that?

I stopped caring about what could have been when I realized that the past is exactly what the future would have been. People don’t really change.

By: Single Mom

Single Mom — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

I am divorced after being married for 13 years. I have never looked back or wondered what could have been. My ex was emotionally/verbally and then became physically abusive. I have 3 children with him and my ex validates everyday the reasons why I divorced him.
I am in a completely different relationship now, my boyfriend is loving, emotionally stable & supportive and not abusive in anyway. Divorce was the best decision I made because I am a much happier person & a better mom to my children!

By: peach

peach — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

I like to reflect on my relationship with my ex to learn from my mistakes. I found my soul mate in my husband now and I don’t want anything to mess it up.

By: Poppet

Poppet — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

No, when I married I had all my loose ends tied up. There was NO question in my mind that those Ex’s were gone from my life and that they were truly failed relationships.

I would not have married if I had any doubts.

By: Melanie J

Melanie J — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

For me, my ex was an absolute idiot! He lied, cheated, hit me, wouldn’t work or wouldn’t pay the bills when he did work. He wasn’t a good father to the kids and when we divorced, he moved out of state to be with a woman he met online and hasn’t seen the kids since or paid any child support at all.

I know my life and the lives of my kids would have stayed a wreck, so I don’t think about it in terms of wondering what could have been. I am much happier and so are the kids with my current husband.

There was a guy I dated for a while I had a wonderful relationship with that I do occasionally wonder about. Then I think about my husband and the love we have and am happy that "what could have been" with the other guy wasn’t. I think everything happens for a reason and that I ended up exactly where I belong.

By: Lov'n IT!

Lov'n IT! — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

They are a fleeting thought every once in a while. Not because there are feelings still attached, but because you just wonder.

By: Ann B

Ann B — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

If your still thinking about the ex maybe you shouldnt have split up. I know it might not have been your choice. But you should work out or resolve all feelings before starting with someone else. Otherwise your being unfair to the new person and yourself.

By: CJ

CJ — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

I don’t think about them now, but there’s always the thought of what are they doing now? That’s natural. I am in a great marriage. Even though we got married at a young age, things are going great for us. We have 2 kids and are financially stable. I’m getting ready to start law school next fall and will be starting a great job within the next year. I don’t regret the decision that I made to marry my current husband. None of my ex’s could have given me the life that I have now and the wonderful children that I have. I am truly blessed to have such a wonderful family and to top it all off, we each get along rather well with our in-laws. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

By: JenW

JenW — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

No. I will always wonder if something could have been different. Even though I am more sure of who I am. I wonder if my relationship would have different if I was as secure then as I am now.
Not sure if this helps but it really depend on how much was invested in the relationship. Mine was over 15 years of my life. I will always wonder if it could have been or should have been different.

By: cheree m

cheree m — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

I’m just starting divorce proceedings now…
and me and my ex are friends now ..
we hated each other when we were together..
we’ve been apart 6 years..

By: Kristina D

Kristina D — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

just my opinion ……if your wondering about a life you could have had with someone else your with the wrong person
when your with the right person that is the only one your dreaming about

By: kystarlyte_kystarlight

kystarlyte_kystarlight — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

My 1st ex still lives with his mom, as he was when I met him 35 years ago, and my 2nd ex, I hope wherever he is, he’s happy and well. He deserves a good woman, just not me. I got tired of being his "mom".

By: Vixen C

Vixen C — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

It’s hard letting go of your favorite toy, but if you love your current partner and nothing’s missing, it’ll stop. If it doesn’t, then you might perhaps reevaluate your current relationship…What’s missing that your ex had?

By: Bethy4

Bethy4 — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

Nope don’t dwell on what could have been but just on what is so much better with out the creep. God Bless.

By: Christina B

Christina B — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

Me and my soon to be Ex husband just didnt work out well. I regret the divorce because I feel it makes things harder on my children, but I do realize that me and him just werent meant to be together.

Yes, it can hurt, and be tough to let go, but some people just arent meant to be together. Hang in there!