My good male friend keeps trying to get with me after my divorce, HELP, won’t stop?

I just got through a very bad divorce four months ago, I have a very good male friend who I’ve known for 5 years. We’ve never had anything romantic and I’ve never seen him in any romantic way, nor has he ever come onto me when I was married. He helped me through so much during my marriage troubles and during the divorce.

The problem is I thought after the divorce we’d still be great friends as I need friends during this time but he keeps hitting on me, offering me massages, saying he wants to cuddle, etc. I’ve told him I’m not interested in a relationship, I see him as a friend, I just needs friends now, I’m not looking for a man, etc. but he won’t take a hint! I don’t want to break it down meanly and say I DONT WANT YOU LIKE THAT! but I don’t know what else to do. He even remarks that I seem uncomfortable when he’s coming to me but he keeps doing it. I just severed a big tie with my husband, I don’t want to cut another tie with someone I thought I could trust but I don’t know why he won’t take a hint and stop. I’ve said I just see him as a friend, what else should I have to say..? I really trusted him and it bothers me that he thinks as soon as I’m divorced it’s his turn to "pounce"..We went to dinner tonight he kept bringing up going back to his place, watching a movie and snuggling..ugh..help

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