Comments on: my moms a achohlic and i’ve tried everthing to get her to stop what should i do to prevent getting a divorce? http://www.beemreunion.com/my-moms-a-achohlic-and-ive-tried-everthing-to-get-her-to-stop-what-should-i-do-to-prevent-getting-a-divorce/ How To Save A Marriage Tue, 27 Dec 2011 02:23:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: i love black http://www.beemreunion.com/my-moms-a-achohlic-and-ive-tried-everthing-to-get-her-to-stop-what-should-i-do-to-prevent-getting-a-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-14472 i love black Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000 http://www..org/?p=1128#comment-14472 u cant do any thing to stop her u cant do any thing to stop her

]]> By: joostine http://www.beemreunion.com/my-moms-a-achohlic-and-ive-tried-everthing-to-get-her-to-stop-what-should-i-do-to-prevent-getting-a-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-14473 joostine Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000 http://www..org/?p=1128#comment-14473 you can't change them sorry, shes on her own path, i suggest to be the best person you can be for yourself and move on with your life and she will see it, in any way she will see it, whether it be distorted or not. just be factual with her and honest with how you feel and try and be happy in yourself. you can’t change them sorry, shes on her own path, i suggest to be the best person you can be for yourself and move on with your life and she will see it, in any way she will see it, whether it be distorted or not.
just be factual with her and honest with how you feel and try and be happy in yourself.

]]> By: DAWN http://www.beemreunion.com/my-moms-a-achohlic-and-ive-tried-everthing-to-get-her-to-stop-what-should-i-do-to-prevent-getting-a-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-14474 DAWN Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000 http://www..org/?p=1128#comment-14474 Unfortunately there is nothing you can do for her or to prevent the divorce. The divorce may actually force her to make that life choice to stop drinking. An alcoholic has to make that decision for themselves. No one can do it for them. Stay strong things will work out ok. You may not see that silver lining yet but there usually is one. Just make sure you remember that its not your responsibility to make your mother responsible or to keep your family together. I wish you the best. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do for her or to prevent the divorce. The divorce may actually force her to make that life choice to stop drinking. An alcoholic has to make that decision for themselves. No one can do it for them. Stay strong things will work out ok. You may not see that silver lining yet but there usually is one. Just make sure you remember that its not your responsibility to make your mother responsible or to keep your family together. I wish you the best.

]]> By: tulley http://www.beemreunion.com/my-moms-a-achohlic-and-ive-tried-everthing-to-get-her-to-stop-what-should-i-do-to-prevent-getting-a-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-14475 tulley Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000 http://www..org/?p=1128#comment-14475 Aly I really feel for your situation. I was once married to an alcoholic, it is a very difficult thing to handle. Depending on your age and the resources you have available to you. Are you in school? If so, ask your teacher if you can go to the guidance department. There are counselors there that can get you the help you need. Or you can look in your local phone book for groups such as Ala-teen or Ala-non these are support groups for families dealing with alcohol. Aly I really feel for your situation. I was once married to an alcoholic, it is a very difficult thing to handle. Depending on your age and the resources you have available to you. Are you in school? If so, ask your teacher if you can go to the guidance department. There are counselors there that can get you the help you need. Or you can look in your local phone book for groups such as Ala-teen or Ala-non these are support groups for families dealing with alcohol.

]]> By: jan p http://www.beemreunion.com/my-moms-a-achohlic-and-ive-tried-everthing-to-get-her-to-stop-what-should-i-do-to-prevent-getting-a-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-14476 jan p Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000 http://www..org/?p=1128#comment-14476 If your Mom is alcoholic, then only she can do something about it. Talk to your councilor at school. There may be some support groups for families of alcoholics in your area. It is always right to pray and ask God for help. But remember that God works according to his time and not ours. He also has told us that his ways are not our ways.This is NOT your fault. God knows you need help. Don't be afraid. Jesus loves you and will send help. I will be praying for you and your family too. If your Mom is alcoholic, then only she can do something about it. Talk to your councilor at school. There may be some support groups for families of alcoholics in your area. It is always right to pray and ask God for help. But remember that God works according to his time and not ours. He also has told us that his ways are not our ways.This is NOT your fault. God knows you need help. Don’t be afraid. Jesus loves you and will send help. I will be praying for you and your family too.

]]> By: Monica http://www.beemreunion.com/my-moms-a-achohlic-and-ive-tried-everthing-to-get-her-to-stop-what-should-i-do-to-prevent-getting-a-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-14477 Monica Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000 http://www..org/?p=1128#comment-14477 You cannot make her change unless she really wants to. However, if you are a minor, don't talk to anybody before you reach the age of majority. You may be removed from your family whether you want it or not, because a minor is treated like a child and the authorities may think that you are in danger. They could even pick you up at school. You may prefer to stay home rather than in a foster home, but if you are a minor, you have no choice once child protection authorities get involved. If you are not a minor but are living with your parents, then don't forget that they no longer have to support you even if they actually do. You don't have the right to find confidential information about your own mother or to force her to do anything, and if you upset her, or if she divorces, you may have to support yourself sooner than expected. Is she really an alcoholic, or is it just that she is drinking a little more than recommended, or more than is normal in a rather strict environment where alcohol consumption is frowned upon? If she is really drinking too much, do you know why? She may feel some emotional pain that she is trying to relieve. What would give her more happiness than whatever semblance of happiness she gets when she drinks? Getting that could be the solution. Aside from her own health, what reasons does she have to stop drinking? What stark reality is she trying to forget? Is she even better off seeing that reality clearly, if it hurts and there is no way to change it? If she didn't drink, would divorce really be less likely? You cannot make her change unless she really wants to. However, if you are a minor, don’t talk to anybody before you reach the age of majority. You may be removed from your family whether you want it or not, because a minor is treated like a child and the authorities may think that you are in danger. They could even pick you up at school. You may prefer to stay home rather than in a foster home, but if you are a minor, you have no choice once child protection authorities get involved.

If you are not a minor but are living with your parents, then don’t forget that they no longer have to support you even if they actually do. You don’t have the right to find confidential information about your own mother or to force her to do anything, and if you upset her, or if she divorces, you may have to support yourself sooner than expected.

Is she really an alcoholic, or is it just that she is drinking a little more than recommended, or more than is normal in a rather strict environment where alcohol consumption is frowned upon? If she is really drinking too much, do you know why? She may feel some emotional pain that she is trying to relieve.

What would give her more happiness than whatever semblance of happiness she gets when she drinks? Getting that could be the solution. Aside from her own health, what reasons does she have to stop drinking? What stark reality is she trying to forget? Is she even better off seeing that reality clearly, if it hurts and there is no way to change it? If she didn’t drink, would divorce really be less likely?

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