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My soon to be ex-wife keeps texting me after i say for her to stop. i don’t want anything to do with her except to get through the divorce clean, pay my debts, and move on. i haven’t said a bad word to her but she keeps saying things like ‘answer your fxcking phone’ and ‘maybe you should get drunk to avoid your stupid ex wife.’ I need her to stop. this is my work number that i have and i can’t change it. CAN I CALL THE POLICE? i don’t want her arrested or anything but i just want it to end!! i’m tired of it.
i really don’t want anything messy; she just gave birth to a black child and i’m white (so i’m obviously not cheating on her), and i am the one divorcing her for it. I’m a very christian man and she insists to tell herself i drink because i’m 21 (i don’t drink at all). and i don’t have money for a lawyer for the restraining order since she drained all my accounts and ran all my credit cards before the separation agreement. I’m not being a wuss about it because my boss also uses that phone and he told me that i need to get her to stop.
@david.dr

i didn’t sign anything on the birth certificate as soon as a black child popped out. i’m pure norwegian and she’s english with light brown-almost blonde hair and the test said it’s not mine so i am not giving her a cent nor am i paying her bills willingly.

I am currently married with one child and have orders to Japan (I leave June 2011). I am in the Marine Corps. My wife and I are considering divorce. I’ve been told by a few Marines that if we file for divorce that I will not be able to execute orders until the divorce is final. Is this true? I understand there are court appearances and legal proceedings that take place throughout the divorce process so I guess halting my orders makes sense. I’d like to hear from someone with experience or firm knowledge about this specific issue.

Thanks!

I NEED TO STOP A DIVORCE VERY URGENTLY OR I’LL BE IN TROUBLE – BIG TROUBLE THAT’S GONNA AFFECT MY ENTIRE LIFE…….
Right, look, i need to stop a divorce before september, or earlier, and this looks almost imposable.
My parents NEVER loved each other since i was born for many reasons, and i understand EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM. It’s stressing me out, and it is no where near pretty, if they divorce. In fact, if they divorce, i won’t have enough money to go to school, or college, or university!!!! that;s equivalent to my entire Life ruined. By the way, don’t even try to say trying to talk to them, because it NEVER works, for the reason that the NEVER EVER listen to me, and if the do, they don’t even care. And don’t tell me to call child line, because they NEVER answer a question properly. And PLEASE, PLEASE don’t say there’s no way at all, because then, i’ll have my entire life ruined.

To be honest, im perfectly fine with my mum and dad ignoring each other, because at least, none of them gets hurt, and nothing will get more complicated. But IF they ever argue, they will do it BIG, VERY complicated, and VERY depressing.

So PLEASE answer my question, and if you want to tell me anything, here’s my email address:

garfieldecila@gmail.com

So plz help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am going to be getting a divorce. I will most likely get custody of the kids because he has a lot of domestic violence charges. We live in az. He wants to try to make it to where I have to live with the kids in Arizona. That I can’t take them with me to Utah. Is this possible?

I have been divorced for over 4 years, and i haven’t been able to open myself to any woman after that, only in a fisical/friends kind of relationship but nothing else.
Is that common?

I’m getting more involved at my church and I don’t know all of God’s laws yet and I’m looking for sound advice from people that do, but my wife always has to drink a lot at home and it disgusts me. She knows how I feel about it and what she tells me is that she’s 43 years old and ain’t nobody going to tell her what to do.

So, I’m living with my mom. She took my apartment key, she has all my money. She said she took it because if we’re getting a divorce she doesn’t want me to come take things. We thought we were getting a divorce, now she said she wants to work things out. We’re not living together anymore. The lease ends in 2 months, we are looking for an apartment because we don’t like the area. I’m supposed to be getting a retroactive check by the end of summer, and I don’t like how this sounds. I’m also getting money sent to my apartment because I’m a landlord, I’m on social security, and a veteran. I’m going to be getting even more money from financial aid and all this other stuff. It sounds way to conveinent for her to not leave empty handed. I don’t know what she’s trying to play. I called her and said, this is weird. We aren’t living together anymore. She said we’ll move back together in 2 months. What am I supposed to do? She said something nasty to me on the phone, I got mad at her and she apologized. She never acts this nice. I don’t like this. I can’t believe this is happening, what should I do?
I’m so nieve and I have a big heart, I don’t know what to do.

Right now, my husband is trying to leave me and its killing me. We’ve been married 3 years and have a 13 month old daughter. He moved out 7 months ago and has started the proceedings. The biggest problem in our relationship is his ex wife. They have two children, 20 year old boy and 7 year old girl. She cheated on him and left for another man, abandoning him and their kids. When that didn’t work out, she tried crawling back to him and kept trying even after we got married. I didn’t want that woman around us at all and I hated the fact that we had to take a portion of our income and give it to her, to take care of a child that she left. She insisted that we take the kids every weekend because she needed some "mommy time" but still wanted extra money. His son acted like a spoiled brat around me, but an angel around his dad. The girl would just flat out avoid me. I would tell him about he the children needed to respect me and he would attempt to fix things but those two still floated around acting as if I didn’t exist. Things did get a little better when I was pregnant until about 9 months ago. It was our anniversary so we left the baby with my step-son. We come back and his mother is in my home, changing the baby. He said that he needed help with the baby and called her. He knows that I hate that woman and probably called her to spite me. Of all the people to call, he calls her? We argued and he said he’s moving out and did a week later. Then my step-daughter, completely stop respecting me. I would tell her to do something and she would just walk out the room like I wasn’t even there. I sent her "mother" an e-mail addressing on why she should live with her, and she forwarded it to my husband who then had the nerve to become angry at me. He said I was trying to get rid of her, which was untrue. I’m just tired of being treated like a doormat and ignored by a child. We argued for some months and then he moved out. We were going to counseling until 5 months ago. He said he needed time to "think about our marriage" and now he acts as if he hates me. I think his ex or kids are poisoning his mind because now he’s against me. I went to a friend’s party on Monday and he was there. I wasn’t expecting him to show up, but I chose to leave him alone that night and didn’t say a word to him. After some time, I left and I go out to my car to see him and this woman kissing. I confront him and he starts yelling at me. He says that he’s on a date and I have no right to make a scene and I say we’re still married and need to work us out. He then says that he hates me and that I’m a bad person for all the crap I put him and the kids through and he wants out. I’m not a bad person and I don’t believe I’ve done anything to anyone. I love him so much and want this to work and for us to be a family. How can I make him see that?

Right now, my husband is trying to leave me and its killing me. We’ve been married 3 years and have a 13 month old daughter. He moved out 7 months ago and has started the proceedings. The biggest problem in our relationship is his ex wife. They have two children, 20 year old boy and 7 year old girl. She cheated on him and left for another man, abandoning him and their kids. When that didn’t work out, she tried crawling back to him and kept trying even after we got married. I didn’t want that woman around us at all and I hated the fact that we had to take a portion of our income and give it to her, to take care of a child that she left. She insisted that we take the kids every weekend because she needed some "mommy time" but still wanted extra money. His son acted like a spoiled brat around me, but an angel around his dad. The girl would just flat out avoid me. I would tell him about he the children needed to respect me and he would attempt to fix things but those two still floated around acting as if I didn’t exist. Things did get a little better when I was pregnant until about 9 months ago. It was our anniversary so we left the baby with my step-son. We come back and his mother is in my home, changing the baby. He said that he needed help with the baby and called her. He knows that I hate that woman and probably called her to spite me. Of all the people to call, he calls her? We argued and he said he’s moving out and did a week later. Then my step-daughter, completely stop respecting me. I would tell her to do something and she would just walk out the room like I wasn’t even there. I sent her "mother" an e-mail addressing on why she should live with her, and she forwarded it to my husband who then had the nerve to become angry at me. He said I was trying to get rid of her, which was untrue. I’m just tired of being treated like a doormat and ignored by a child. We argued for some months and then he moved out. We were going to counseling until 5 months ago. He said he needed time to "think about our marriage" and now he acts as if he hates me. I think his ex or kids are poisoning his mind because now he’s against me. I went to a friend’s party on Monday and he was there. I wasn’t expecting him to show up, but I chose to leave him alone that night and didn’t say a word to him. After some time, I left and I go out to my car to see him and this woman kissing. I confront him and he starts yelling at me. He says that he’s on a date and I have no right to make a scene and I say we’re still married and need to work us out. He then says that he hates me and that I’m a bad person for all the crap I put him and the kids through and he wants out. I’m not a bad person and I don’t believe I’ve done anything to anyone. I love him so much and want this to work and for us to be a family. How can I make him see that?

are with and stop playing games? This is really getting out of hand these days..

I am in the process of a divorce after 19 years. I’ve known him for 27 years. The divorce is mutual. He agreed to seeing the kids on the weekends. I have been very open as to when he wants to see his children even during the week days since its summer and when school starts it’s understood their schedule will be more structured. We moved to our seperate living quarters June 18th. He has only seen his children four times about 6 hours each time.

I understand him not wanting to see me…but his children? I don’t get it! This is a situation where he was their when they were born, took his kids to school every morning, saw them everyday and now that we are divorcing — he is basically disappeared out of their lives. He’s moved in with another women with 3 children. I moved to my own place with no males introduced until our divorce is final (I just choose not to introduce my children to any male "friends" until it’s serious.) Too me it’s a slap in the face to our childern that he’s not making HIS kids a priority anymore. I’m totally ready to move on with my life. It just hurts me that he’s not taking time with his own children. I really didn’t see this one coming….

I would appreciate some comments from men too.
My children are boys 12 and 14 by the way…
He’s already introduced our children to his new "family" without me knowing about it to see if they could get along. I was pissed about that but I had to get over it. He is their father and I could not stop it. I thought it was disrespectful to me and too soon for the children. But…that’s another topic.
Correction: Why do "some" fathers stop seeing their children after a divorce.

They’re always fighting because of me or it has something to do with me like hospital bills or something and they told me they’re getting a divorce but I know it’s because of me and I don’t want that. They lied and said it wasn’t about me but I know it is because if it wasn’t for me they wouldn’t be so stressed and fighting all the time. And it’s not that I keep doing stuff to get into trouble or anything. I’ve been sick since I was 4 (I’m 15) and since then I’ve been in and out of hospitals all the time. They never used to fight before,well maybe just not in front of me. In all their old photos before I was born they were happy and when I was a baby they were happy but now they never are happy around each other.

What can I do?

My dad had an afair and it is really hard on me is there anything i can do to keep them together, please I need help.
If you haven’t got anything useful to say, save it, because I couldn’t care less if it’s "just between my mom and dad" I want to know what I can do to help

my hubby just tried several times,but still not fully succeefull,even though we applied lubrication and last week afterdoing that i noticed that the area between my vagina and anus are slightly swelled up and i formed a 1 inch long lump toward my anal opening.i did had constiption also after during my delivery ,but never had severe troubles related to tht.now i can feel the lump hanging eventhought its just 1 cm.it worries me and i fear to see a doctor.wht shl i do.shall i apply some antiseptic?pls advise

My husband get mad when i talk about having kids.He is always quiet, get mad at little stuff and when we do argue he throws things. He can be nie but there are problems too. He barely talks to me, talks to his friend all the time and laguhs and has fun but when i try to be cool with him he doesnt act like that.Also he would invite to to go with him over his friends houses and as soon as we get there, i sit down and he leaves into another room with his friends and im sitting alone for about 2 hours and wen i walk in, he looks at me like i should be there. Sex is distant but we still do it, and i feel like im going to say the wrong things sometime.What do you think is going on? Is the relationship over? he is 26.
It willbe good sometimes the bad. We are in college also. idk what to do. i try everything just to make him notice me and stuff like that.

i have a big problem!!!!!! i am married for several years and theres this guy who i’ve seen look at me a few times who works with my husband michaele!!!! i just got a bad crush on him all of a sudden and i have no idea if he’s got it for me to or not? But recently he pulled beside me at the gas pumps and there was alot of empty spaces on other sides and he pulled beside me AT THE EXACT TIME I WAS THINKING ABOUT HIM WEIRD i know and i have a daughter with my husband and i’m upset about this but i can’t freaking help this i got it majorly bad i’ve tryed to stop feeding the thoughts more fuel but it keeps coming back every single day now… my heart skips beats when i see him i’m so confused how do i tell if this other guy likes me or not … i’m not a cheater so dont even go there people i would never do that but i just need to know why, how, and if he likes me to how do i test that or find out withot asking him????? i need to know to make this go away!

HAVING PROBLEMS WITH MY MARRIAGE. HUSABND LEFT 2 YEARS AGO BECAUSE OF DRUGS. HE HATES ME BECAUSE I ASKED HIM TO LEAVE OUR HOME. NOW HE KEEP SAYING THAT HE DONT WANT TO START UP ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP BECUASE I PUT HIM OUT AND THAT HURTED HIM. THE REASON HE LEFT IS BECAUSE HIS DRUG DEALERS STARTED COMING TO THE HOUSE SO HAD HAD TO MOVE OUT. BUT HE NOW GOING THROUGH HIS RECOVERY AND I TRULLY MISSED HAVING HIM IN MY LIFE. I HAVE BEEN WAITING ON HIM TO GET HIS SELF TOGETHER SO WE CAN WORK ON OUT RELATIONSHIP AS HUSABND AND WIFE. BUT HE KEEP PUTTING ME ON HOLD SAYING HE IS NOT READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP WITH ME RIGHT NOW. WHAT WILL YOU DO IF IT WAS YOU?

THANKS

"i am from kenya. my husband and i are not legally married, we had planned to get married but on the day of the ceremony his ex baby mama showed up and objected to our union, that was in march last year. till today we haven’t been able to legalize our union because his ex’s letter of objection is preventing this and she refuses to let it go, i cannot explain how this makes me feel and every time i think about it i cry. from the moment he and i became an item my mom was aware of everything that we went through, our struggles and our hardships and she kept encouraging to stay strong and stick together so we decided to move on with our lives as a married couple, we have a 7month old son. initially my husband and i were living in the same house as my mom and at some point he felt uncomfortable and that it was disrespectful to my mom to live in the same house as him so he opted to move out and asked me to go with him, my mom didn’t take this well at all because she felt like i was abandoning her and at some point they got into a heated argument and he threatened that if i didn’t go with him he and i would be over. so after talking to my mom she let me go and said she is ok and very supportive of our relationship but my husband doesn’t feel that way because every time she wants to see her grandson she waits till he leaves the house and even when she wants to pick him up she asks the nanny to meet her out by the road when he’s home rather than come in and pick him up. my husband feels like she doesn’t want us to be together and it’s starting to affect us, he doesn’t want our son going to her house anymore and even though she loves her grandson so much it’s like she doesn’t recognize that this man is the man i have chosen to spend the rest of my life with and that he is the father of my son, even after watching us go through such a hard time.when i ask her about why she does these things she says that he is picking on her and that she doesn’t do this at all. My husband says i defend her too much but all i do is explain to him exactly what she tells me. i have spoken to her over and over about this but it’s like she doesn’t hear what i’m saying. i feel so torn up and stressed about this and i know it’s only a matter of time before i go into depression because i have so much i am trying to balance in my life, being a mother and providing for my son, trying to feed and support my mother who relies on me, trying to concentrate on my job but mostly trying to be a good wife to this man, also there are many times i think about whether he communicates or sees his ex and if there’s something going on, our sex life is not what it used to be ever since i had the baby and it’s also affecting us, all these things combined are slowly eating into my energy and again it’s only a short matter of time before i go into depression, i can feel it and i don’t know what to do, these are 2 people who matter so much to me and i don’t want to hurt either one of them, sometimes i just feel like taking my son and leaving everything and everyone behind and start my life fresh, i love my husband very much, i love my mom very much too and i would be so happy if all this nonsense between them could stop. i’m so exhausted and stressed out by all of this, what should i do?