Save Marriage

A few months back I had told my husband that I was leaving him for someone that I have loved for a long time. My husband is still planning on the divorce, but I cannot convince him that I do not want it anymore. I want to try again to make this work (my marriage has had more bumps than an old dirt road) and I don’t know what to say to him. I know that earning his trust back is going to be a task, but it’s one that I’m willing to take. Can someone please provide some suggestions? Counselors and chaplains aren’t working…they say that the marriage is over at this point but I don’t believe that.

ok im 22yrs old my husband 24yrs old, we have been together for 8yrs married 2yrs, we also have a 1 in half yr old son. We separated in Feb. of this year. Things werent going well between us so i broke it off. He lives with his mom and i live an our apt. I really want our relationship to be how it used to be, Ive realized living with him is horrible and unhappy, i miss him so much, I want our family back together.but he says he isn’t sure about our relationship now that i broke things off and now that we dnt live together. I know i hurt me and I will never forgive myself for that. I made an appt. with a marriage counselor, but im so afraid he wont take me back after I left him. What can I do? Where do I start? Can someone please give me advice, someone who been tho it?

*Sigh* I was cooking salmon when my mother in law spray those dollar air spray on the kitchen. I stop cooking for her because she finds every fault on my cooking, so my husband told her to cook for herself. This is not the first time she did this to me and I am ready to give up on my marriage. She plays the I am sick with my husband, so she cant be by herself. I am thinking of leaving my husband because he told me he just cant leave her by herself because she is sick. My mother in law is 52, doesn’t work and just sit all day. Am I right to make such drastic decision or should I just stay with him and hope for the best? P.S. My husband and I doesn’t have any intimate relationship because this evil women sleep in front of our bedroom because she is scared.

A few months back I had told my husband that I was leaving him for someone that I have loved for a long time. My husband is still planning on the divorce, but I cannot convince him that I do not want it anymore. I want to try again to make this work (my marriage has had more bumps than an old dirt road) and I don’t know what to say to him. I know that earning his trust back is going to be a task, but it’s one that I’m willing to take. Can someone please provide some suggestions? Counselors and chaplains aren’t working…they say that the marriage is over at this point but I don’t believe that.

My huspand and I separated a month ago I left him first but thats only because I thought I had no other choice and he didnt love me or I thought was putting his family first. Then he tells me he didnt see us ever working out because we didnt get along. However the week before that we got along great. Now hes giving me mixed messages he doesnt want anyone else or does he want me to be with anyone else, but yet he doesnt want us to get back together right now either help confused and heart broken!

*Sigh* I was cooking salmon when my mother in law spray those dollar air spray on the kitchen. I stop cooking for her because she finds every fault on my cooking, so my husband told her to cook for herself. This is not the first time she did this to me and I am ready to give up on my marriage. She plays the I am sick with my husband, so she cant be by herself. I am thinking of leaving my husband because he told me he just cant leave her by herself because she is sick. My mother in law is 52, doesn’t work and just sit all day. Am I right to make such drastic decision or should I just stay with him and hope for the best? P.S. My husband and I doesn’t have any intimate relationship because this evil women sleep in front of our bedroom because she is scared.

My huspand and I separated a month ago I left him first but thats only because I thought I had no other choice and he didnt love me or I thought was putting his family first. Then he tells me he didnt see us ever working out because we didnt get along. However the week before that we got along great. Now hes giving me mixed messages he doesnt want anyone else or does he want me to be with anyone else, but yet he doesnt want us to get back together right now either help confused and heart broken!

I’ve been married 10 years, have one small daughter and major anger issues! I get angry and yell a lot, say mean things to my husband. We argue on a daily basis. I’ve always been this way but he’s never made a major issue of it in the past. Since the birth of our daughter things have escalated. I cannot control myself. I’ve been very unhappy with him for not helping me enough. He never says much except control your temper but the last 2 weeks he’s been acting very distant. With much effort, I finally got him to tell me he doesn’t love me anymore! Quote: I love you but I’m not in love with you. He says he’s not happy with me. I still love him and really want to work this out. I want us to be happy together! Does anyone have any advice? I don’t even know if there is anything left to save. He won’t talk about it much.

iam married for 5years and have 2kids.ours is an arranged marriage.we have been talking for a year& then got married.since day1 of my marriage,he strated complaining about my behaviour,which he doesnt like,example the way i talk,the way i sit,stand etc.few of them i tried to change to suit him,few i couldnt like the way i walk etc..he says i do everything like my dad,which he hates.as u know its all in ur genes that cant be changed.others dont do that with me only he does that.he slowly started punishing me for that.he started abusing me verbally me &my family,then he started beating me(not vigorously),he sometimes hits himself,bangs his head on wall,breaks a fan,& now he uses filthy language against my parents which i couldnt bear anymore. on the other hand after the fight ,he says he loves me,&please dont leave me. in fact he does loves me &my kids a lot,he buys me everything that i ask for &keeps me happy &respect my parents a lot.its only in anger he does that with me alone.help?

I’ve been married 10 years, have one small daughter and major anger issues! I get angry and yell a lot, say mean things to my husband. We argue on a daily basis. I’ve always been this way but he’s never made a major issue of it in the past. Since the birth of our daughter things have escalated. I cannot control myself. I’ve been very unhappy with him for not helping me enough. He never says much except control your temper but the last 2 weeks he’s been acting very distant. With much effort, I finally got him to tell me he doesn’t love me anymore! Quote: I love you but I’m not in love with you. He says he’s not happy with me. I still love him and really want to work this out. I want us to be happy together! Does anyone have any advice? I don’t even know if there is anything left to save. He won’t talk about it much.

iam married for 3 months n my husband dont love me at all! he love his ex gal frnd and still living in her memories….he told me he cant see me in her place…he avoids me badly…he is keeping this relation for only his family..i love his family…but his attitude kills me….wot should i do now? still iam not hatting him..!

iam married for 5years and have 2kids.ours is an arranged marriage.we have been talking for a year& then got married.since day1 of my marriage,he strated complaining about my behaviour,which he doesnt like,example the way i talk,the way i sit,stand etc.few of them i tried to change to suit him,few i couldnt like the way i walk etc..he says i do everything like my dad,which he hates.as u know its all in ur genes that cant be changed.others dont do that with me only he does that.he slowly started punishing me for that.he started abusing me verbally me &my family,then he started beating me(not vigorously),he sometimes hits himself,bangs his head on wall,breaks a fan,& now he uses filthy language against my parents which i couldnt bear anymore. on the other hand after the fight ,he says he loves me,&please dont leave me. in fact he does loves me &my kids a lot,he buys me everything that i ask for &keeps me happy &respect my parents a lot.its only in anger he does that with me alone.help?

iam married for 3 months n my husband dont love me at all! he love his ex gal frnd and still living in her memories….he told me he cant see me in her place…he avoids me badly…he is keeping this relation for only his family..i love his family…but his attitude kills me….wot should i do now? still iam not hatting him..!

I’ve made a mistake and am trying to save my marriage. Three weeks ago someone emailed my husband a few pictures of me in Kawai at the beach during a weekend trip I took with a guy I recently had an affair with; that time I said I was visiting my cousin in Portland. Fortunately the photos were cell phone and were somewhat blurry so I was able to claim that it was not me in those pictures.

He wasn’t completely convinced but somehow he was not sure it was me. But then he has started going through all of my stuff. This week somehow he found out my email password, and after reading all my old emails he found a couple of emails from me to this guy whom I had the affair with, as well as other email with attached pictures of me in lingerie and naked which I sent to another guy that I met at the mall 7 months ago and whom I had a one night stand. (WHY at least I didn’t delete those old emails?).

Obviously he is very upset, and threatening to leave. I’m a housewife and don’t work. There is no way I’m going to be able to pay for a beautiful home myself without his income. I don’t want to go living in a crappy apartment in a bad area, and can’t digest the idea of going back to live with my parents again. How can I save my marriage? Help please!

And before you start telling me to go with my lovers, the guy from 7 months ago I didn’t see him again he was not that great and he’s from another state; I don’t even know where he lives now. The guy whom I had an affair recently and went to Hawaii with, he’s looking for a job and we wouldn’t be capable of providing the right lifestyle I deserve. I don’t have a great husband in many ways, but he has his own company which is very profitable, and it would be very hard to find someone with such a deep pocket again. But he has gained a lot of weight since we got married; refuses to diet and I don’t feel like I lust for him anymore.

my wife and i have been married almost 7 yrs separated now for almost months we been staying to gether on weekends living apart during the week.A big issue we have is we dont have kids together we tried but our luck wasnt with us we couldnt conceive im 39 she is going to be 49 she wants a kid together so we have some sort ofa thing together that is both of ours she has kids from previous marriage but they are grown. i feel she is to old for a baby and she wants to travel and stuff but its not likely if we have a kid or baby around if we adopt. if we adopt by the time the kid is 20 she will be 70 and me 60 i feel its going to be a financial burden and i feel where we live doesnt help things because the cost of living is so expensive there is no way i feel we could start living our life together enjoying life especially if we have a young kid around. i accepted it because not everyone is lucky enough to have a child we tried and it just didnt happen what could i do to save my marriage

I asked a question yesterday on how to save my marriage, most people told me talk to my husband , start counseling. Well to inform everyone I went to counseling myself yesterday as well as my husband and I signed up for marriage counseling which will start shortly. My husband enrolled in a anger management class given he believes he will need more help keeping his cool. So thank you to all who answered and if anyone has anything else that might help that would be great.

I’ve made a mistake and am trying to save my marriage. Three weeks ago someone emailed my husband a few pictures of me in Kawai at the beach during a weekend trip I took with a guy I recently had an affair with; that time I said I was visiting my cousin in Portland. Fortunately the photos were cell phone and were somewhat blurry so I was able to claim that it was not me in those pictures.

He wasn’t completely convinced but somehow he was not sure it was me. But then he has started going through all of my stuff. This week somehow he found out my email password, and after reading all my old emails he found a couple of emails from me to this guy whom I had the affair with, as well as other email with attached pictures of me in lingerie and naked which I sent to another guy that I met at the mall 7 months ago and whom I had a one night stand. (WHY at least I didn’t delete those old emails?).

Obviously he is very upset, and threatening to leave. I’m a housewife and don’t work. There is no way I’m going to be able to pay for a beautiful home myself without his income. I don’t want to go living in a crappy apartment in a bad area, and can’t digest the idea of going back to live with my parents again. How can I save my marriage? Help please!

And before you start telling me to go with my lovers, the guy from 7 months ago I didn’t see him again he was not that great and he’s from another state; I don’t even know where he lives now. The guy whom I had an affair recently and went to Hawaii with, he’s looking for a job and we wouldn’t be capable of providing the right lifestyle I deserve. I don’t have a great husband in many ways, but he has his own company which is very profitable, and it would be very hard to find someone with such a deep pocket again. But he has gained a lot of weight since we got married; refuses to diet and I don’t feel like I lust for him anymore.

my wife and i have been married almost 7 yrs separated now for almost months we been staying to gether on weekends living apart during the week.A big issue we have is we dont have kids together we tried but our luck wasnt with us we couldnt conceive im 39 she is going to be 49 she wants a kid together so we have some sort ofa thing together that is both of ours she has kids from previous marriage but they are grown. i feel she is to old for a baby and she wants to travel and stuff but its not likely if we have a kid or baby around if we adopt. if we adopt by the time the kid is 20 she will be 70 and me 60 i feel its going to be a financial burden and i feel where we live doesnt help things because the cost of living is so expensive there is no way i feel we could start living our life together enjoying life especially if we have a young kid around. i accepted it because not everyone is lucky enough to have a child we tried and it just didnt happen what could i do to save my marriage

i really don’t know how to save my marriage which will b soon end up divorce. My husband very angry at me and wanted to divorce me bcos i put my 1st priority over my family instead of him.

what have i done wrong can anybody tell me? He said he never ask me to choose between him n my family but i already make my choice which is my family. I really don’t know myself n how to save this marriage. We really love each other very much but it seems like i’m the one who’s going to destroy it. He even ask me to marry my family instead.I really love all of them but i just cannot change / shift my priority eventhough i wanted too. he said he gave me alot of chance but i never change.

Can anyone tell me what is my problem n what i have done wrong?
do you have this kind of problem also n how do you solve it?

is it true that i really going to divorce soon, haiz…

isst true as what he said i shouldn’t even get married n don’t know how to become people’s wife.

please teach me

I asked a question yesterday on how to save my marriage, most people told me talk to my husband , start counseling. Well to inform everyone I went to counseling myself yesterday as well as my husband and I signed up for marriage counseling which will start shortly. My husband enrolled in a anger management class given he believes he will need more help keeping his cool. So thank you to all who answered and if anyone has anything else that might help that would be great.