Comments on: Please help me STOP my DIVORCE? http://www.beemreunion.com/please-help-me-stop-my-divorce/ How To Save A Marriage Thu, 13 May 2010 17:42:54 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Miss Zora http://www.beemreunion.com/please-help-me-stop-my-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-13203 Miss Zora Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www. .org/?p=1034#comment-13203 Have you tried counseling? Seems like he is trying but is remembering what caused the rift and it's bothering him enough to not want to get back together. Have you told him heart to heart that you are sorry and that you want your marriage to work (not just for the child, but for him too)? If he wants to file the papers, let him. He may be saying this to see what your response is, or just to make you hurt --like he did when you cheated. Try talking to him and see if he will agree to counseling. Have you tried counseling? Seems like he is trying but is remembering what caused the rift and it’s bothering him enough to not want to get back together. Have you told him heart to heart that you are sorry and that you want your marriage to work (not just for the child, but for him too)? If he wants to file the papers, let him. He may be saying this to see what your response is, or just to make you hurt –like he did when you cheated. Try talking to him and see if he will agree to counseling.

]]> By: Mel http://www.beemreunion.com/please-help-me-stop-my-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-13204 Mel Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www. .org/?p=1034#comment-13204 Have you tried counseling? A mediator? Communicate with him, not with us. Tell him. Good luck. Have you tried counseling? A mediator? Communicate with him, not with us. Tell him.
Good luck.

]]> By: turtle http://www.beemreunion.com/please-help-me-stop-my-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-13205 turtle Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www. .org/?p=1034#comment-13205 Have you 2 sought marriage counseling? It's really up to him since you were the cheater. It's nearly impossible to gain trust back again once you have cheated on someone who loves you. If he is willing to try, suggest marriage counseling and hope he is amenable. If he is not, then there's no use knocking yourself out trying to get back with him. It will be months, if not years, before he will trust you again. Get the papers. Be a good girl and never do that again! Have you 2 sought marriage counseling? It’s really up to him since you were the cheater. It’s nearly impossible to gain trust back again once you have cheated on someone who loves you. If he is willing to try, suggest marriage counseling and hope he is amenable. If he is not, then there’s no use knocking yourself out trying to get back with him. It will be months, if not years, before he will trust you again. Get the papers. Be a good girl and never do that again!

]]> By: kate robo http://www.beemreunion.com/please-help-me-stop-my-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-13206 kate robo Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www. .org/?p=1034#comment-13206 Have you spoke to him about how your feeling he might not be aware of your feelings and thats why he has filed for divorce.x Have you spoke to him about how your feeling he might not be aware of your feelings and thats why he has filed for divorce.x

]]> By: Average Joe http://www.beemreunion.com/please-help-me-stop-my-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-13207 Average Joe Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www. .org/?p=1034#comment-13207 I am sorry but it sounds like the ball is in his court. All you can do is show him that you will never do this again. Let him know that his child needs a dad. In either case the power to prevent this divorce is not in your hands anymore. You lost that power when you had the affair. I am sorry but it sounds like the ball is in his court. All you can do is show him that you will never do this again. Let him know that his child needs a dad. In either case the power to prevent this divorce is not in your hands anymore. You lost that power when you had the affair.

]]> By: Richard M. Johnston, Realtor http://www.beemreunion.com/please-help-me-stop-my-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-13208 Richard M. Johnston, Realtor Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www. .org/?p=1034#comment-13208 I feel that he loves you but not enough for him to continue to be married to you. If you can both seek counceling with a specialist, maybe you can address the real issues of your problems. 2.5 years is a long time to keep things in limbo. I wish you guys the best. I feel that he loves you but not enough for him to continue to be married to you. If you can both seek counceling with a specialist, maybe you can address the real issues of your problems. 2.5 years is a long time to keep things in limbo. I wish you guys the best.

]]> By: the_silverfoxx http://www.beemreunion.com/please-help-me-stop-my-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-13209 the_silverfoxx Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www. .org/?p=1034#comment-13209 that.s hy he filed for divorce. where you cheated on him as well you knew right from wrong being married and cheating dont go together this you know put the shoe on the other foot on cheating then you have your answer he knows you cheat again once this happens in a maggage it.s over fact he knows as well you to you broke a vow on your marrage to be faitful witch you wasnt dont blame no one but your self after all you brought this upon your self . in my opion? that.s hy he filed for divorce. where you cheated on him as well you knew right from wrong being married and cheating dont go together this you know put the shoe on the other foot on cheating then you have your answer he knows you cheat again once this happens in a maggage it.s over fact he knows as well you to you broke a vow on your marrage to be faitful witch you wasnt dont blame no one but your self after all you brought this upon your self . in my opion?

]]> By: ain't misbehaven http://www.beemreunion.com/please-help-me-stop-my-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-13210 ain't misbehaven Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www. .org/?p=1034#comment-13210 Hopefully you can talk to your husband about how much you want to save the marriage..Maybe he feels the same way..But you need to be prepared for a divorce in case reason doesn't work. It's a matter of trust. Maybe after 21/2 yrs apart, he'll be okay again.. Good luck Hopefully you can talk to your husband about how much you want to save the marriage..Maybe he feels the same way..But you need to be prepared for a divorce in case reason doesn’t work. It’s a matter of trust. Maybe after 21/2 yrs apart, he’ll be okay again.. Good luck

]]> By: macmommagnum http://www.beemreunion.com/please-help-me-stop-my-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-13211 macmommagnum Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www. .org/?p=1034#comment-13211 He no longer trusts you and does not want to try to - you could try and talk him in to counseling, but that is a long shot, as it has been over 2 years and he has had a long time to think about it. He no longer trusts you and does not want to try to – you could try and talk him in to counseling, but that is a long shot, as it has been over 2 years and he has had a long time to think about it.

]]> By: lost man http://www.beemreunion.com/please-help-me-stop-my-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-13212 lost man Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www. .org/?p=1034#comment-13212 the only thing you can do is to PROVE to him that you really want the family. use your heart and actions, let him feel that in his heart before it is too late, not by telling and keep telling. guess he can't let go on your mistake made, you need extra effort here. the only thing you can do is to PROVE to him that you really want the family. use your heart and actions, let him feel that in his heart before it is too late, not by telling and keep telling.

guess he can’t let go on your mistake made, you need extra effort here.

]]> By: who ?? http://www.beemreunion.com/please-help-me-stop-my-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-13213 who ?? Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www. .org/?p=1034#comment-13213 well... u have to let go dear.. well he needs to be happy.. and i do believe he wants this.. let him go.. try and make it as less messy as possible.. u could suggest couple counselling.. but thats all {} well… u have to let go dear.. well he needs to be happy.. and i do believe he wants this.. let him go.. try and make it as less messy as possible.. u could suggest couple counselling.. but thats all {}

]]> By: aleasha_Sam01 http://www.beemreunion.com/please-help-me-stop-my-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-13214 aleasha_Sam01 Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www. .org/?p=1034#comment-13214 It's all fun and games until some one gets hurt... you betrayed his trust and now you want things to go back to normal... sorry but it seems like that small glimpse of getting back together was probably his compassion and love for his child. Again, you made a mistake sacraficing your marriage, so you can't expect him to forgive you when you hurt him. Don't play the family card for trying to get him to stay. It may explode in your face because he might question how badly you want your family since you sacraficed it for an affair. You also can't make some one stay/love you when they don't want to. If you were in his shoes would you stay? And if you did would you be happy? No, you'd be constantly questioning and worrying about what they did and where they went. Face it... the marriage is over. And I'm not trying to be mean but... the truth hurts. This all could have been avoided. It’s all fun and games until some one gets hurt…
you betrayed his trust and now you want things to go back to normal… sorry but it seems like that small glimpse of getting back together was probably his compassion and love for his child. Again, you made a mistake sacraficing your marriage, so you can’t expect him to forgive you when you hurt him. Don’t play the family card for trying to get him to stay. It may explode in your face because he might question how badly you want your family since you sacraficed it for an affair. You also can’t make some one stay/love you when they don’t want to. If you were in his shoes would you stay? And if you did would you be happy? No, you’d be constantly questioning and worrying about what they did and where they went. Face it… the marriage is over. And I’m not trying to be mean but… the truth hurts. This all could have been avoided.

]]> By: springo88 http://www.beemreunion.com/please-help-me-stop-my-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-13215 springo88 Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www. .org/?p=1034#comment-13215 Communicate with him openly...Ask him if thats what he really wants,ask him to really think things through, tell him how much you want the marriage to work,he needs to gain your trust all over again,some people just never get over being cheated on and others ... well times a healer,, but you need to respect his answer if it's a no and move on. Theres no point trying to make a reationship work if the other party does not want too, you will only damage what relationship you already have , and you need some sort of friendship for the sake of your kid.If he doesn't want to work things out you should respect that, if you really love him, you will want him to be happy.If he does say no, theres no point in crying and begging, it will only strain the relationship and thats not fair for the little one,Hope it helps .hope things work out for you.And if it's a no, well time will heal u and u will find another. Communicate with him openly…Ask him if thats what he really wants,ask him to really think things through, tell him how much you want the marriage to work,he needs to gain your trust all over again,some people just never get over being cheated on and others … well times a healer,, but you need to respect his answer if it’s a no and move on. Theres no point trying to make a reationship work if the other party does not want too, you will only damage what relationship you already have , and you need some sort of friendship for the sake of your kid.If he doesn’t want to work things out you should respect that, if you really love him, you will want him to be happy.If he does say no, theres no point in crying and begging, it will only strain the relationship and thats not fair for the little one,Hope it helps .hope things work out for you.And if it’s a no, well time will heal u and u will find another.

]]> By: TPE http://www.beemreunion.com/please-help-me-stop-my-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-13216 TPE Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www. .org/?p=1034#comment-13216 Face the facts ... It is never going to work if he has decided he dosent want to remain legally attached, also, he may have someone else on the scene, probably a reason he seems happy !! Also remember, if in time he did change his outlook, you can always re-marry - Face the facts … It is never going to work if he has decided he dosent want to remain legally attached, also, he may have someone else on the scene, probably a reason he seems happy !!
Also remember, if in time he did change his outlook, you can always re-marry -

]]> By: nelaputri http://www.beemreunion.com/please-help-me-stop-my-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-13217 nelaputri Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www. .org/?p=1034#comment-13217 Go to pray to save yr marriage and make him better with a lil surprise, say appologize to him. I wish you have a good way and luck. Go to pray to save yr marriage and make him better with a lil surprise, say appologize to him. I wish you have a good way and luck.

]]> By: elvlayarvvi http://www.beemreunion.com/please-help-me-stop-my-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-13218 elvlayarvvi Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www. .org/?p=1034#comment-13218 Don't file the papers. If he really wants to divorce let him file. All I can really say is let him know how you feel and stay away from any man until the divorce is final. After that, move on, if he does not want to stay with you. Don’t file the papers. If he really wants to divorce let him file. All I can really say is let him know how you feel and stay away from any man until the divorce is final. After that, move on, if he does not want to stay with you.

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